Looking for comments and suggestions. I am self represented and want others opinion on my Ex trying to move with my 13 and 15 year old from Toronto to Edmonton to be with her just recently engaged fiancée.
Background:
Ex and I were on vacation 5 years ago and met another couple from Edmonton we hung out with for the week. Shortly after that the ex and the other husband began an online romance that over a year tuned into something more. I found out and the marriage ended and we began a bitter divorce. The ex continued the long distance relationship with the other man in Edmonton and he eventually left his wife and divorced also. He has 2 kids similar in age to mine.
We have been separated 4 years and officially divorced as of June 2011. Ex has introduced my kids to the boyfriend and had them travel to Edmonton about 2 years ago to meet his 2 children. They have as a group been on 4 - 5 vacations together in the last 2 - 3 years.
Our custody is joint, the kids reside with my ex who lives less than 1 km from me. I have the typical, every Wed and every other weekend, holidays alternate, type access. However, I see my kids much more than that. I pick up my youngest from school every day, bring my 15 year old to her tutor every Tuesday and because they are both playing for Rep travel basketball and soccer teams, the ex and I have to shuttle them around to practices and games all week. I see the kids on almost a daily basis. When the ex travel to be with her boyfriend I have the kids for extended periods of time.
Now the problem: The ex is now engaged and plans on moving to Edmonton. She has told the kids of this and has supposedly gave them the option to move with her or stay with me. They are sad but want to move with her. When I ask them they say, "don't' worry Dad, mom will send us back for holidays and summers. You will get to see us lots" In my opinion, while given a choice, they really do not know what they are signing up for here. The ex has painted everything to be like candy canes and lolly pops. The fact is they will get settled, make friends and not want to travel back to Ontario regularly. Furthermore, they have only been around this guy and his kids on vacations and it will be a lot different living with them then being on a beach together.
They are being up rooted from their family, friends, community and all their support system to go to some place they have barely visited to live with people they barely really know. They will also have to give up the activities they currently do at a high competitive level because the demands and commitment will be difficult if they are spending extended time in Ontario.
What are my chances to fight this people!!!???
Background:
Ex and I were on vacation 5 years ago and met another couple from Edmonton we hung out with for the week. Shortly after that the ex and the other husband began an online romance that over a year tuned into something more. I found out and the marriage ended and we began a bitter divorce. The ex continued the long distance relationship with the other man in Edmonton and he eventually left his wife and divorced also. He has 2 kids similar in age to mine.
We have been separated 4 years and officially divorced as of June 2011. Ex has introduced my kids to the boyfriend and had them travel to Edmonton about 2 years ago to meet his 2 children. They have as a group been on 4 - 5 vacations together in the last 2 - 3 years.
Our custody is joint, the kids reside with my ex who lives less than 1 km from me. I have the typical, every Wed and every other weekend, holidays alternate, type access. However, I see my kids much more than that. I pick up my youngest from school every day, bring my 15 year old to her tutor every Tuesday and because they are both playing for Rep travel basketball and soccer teams, the ex and I have to shuttle them around to practices and games all week. I see the kids on almost a daily basis. When the ex travel to be with her boyfriend I have the kids for extended periods of time.
Now the problem: The ex is now engaged and plans on moving to Edmonton. She has told the kids of this and has supposedly gave them the option to move with her or stay with me. They are sad but want to move with her. When I ask them they say, "don't' worry Dad, mom will send us back for holidays and summers. You will get to see us lots" In my opinion, while given a choice, they really do not know what they are signing up for here. The ex has painted everything to be like candy canes and lolly pops. The fact is they will get settled, make friends and not want to travel back to Ontario regularly. Furthermore, they have only been around this guy and his kids on vacations and it will be a lot different living with them then being on a beach together.
They are being up rooted from their family, friends, community and all their support system to go to some place they have barely visited to live with people they barely really know. They will also have to give up the activities they currently do at a high competitive level because the demands and commitment will be difficult if they are spending extended time in Ontario.
What are my chances to fight this people!!!???
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