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    Anyone have any dealings where a parent is available to look after the child but the custodial parent places the child in daycare during those times?

  • #2
    Whose parenting time is it and is the other parent working during the tine that the kid is in daycare?

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    • #3
      Custodial parents time. Working at that time. Non custody parent is available

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      • #4
        Daycare might provide social stimulation and an opportunity for the child to prepare for formal learning, generalize their skills to different environments, meet buddies, play with cool toys, etc.

        Have you considered a "Right of First Refusal Claus"? (I'll plug OFW at the same time).
        https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/blog...-first-refusal

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        • #5
          without rofr there isn't a damn. thing u can do about it and in a way it is good because it prevents people from not working in order to "care for children" and then collect child support...

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          • #6
            I think custodial means custodial - the parent in charge has the right to make decisions about the child's well-being, including use of appropriate child care services to enable employment. Non-custodial parent can offer (a helpful thing to do), but NCP can't compel CP to use NCP for child care.

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            • #7
              If you can prove very clearly that the child is suffering due to going to daycare you might be able to get ROFR or a complete change in custody. A psychological assessment, teacher testimony, etc.... is the the type of evidence you'd need.

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              • #8
                Generally speaking, you can't pick and choose whether you go to (and therefore pay for) daycare on a day to day basis.

                "If you can prove very clearly that the child is suffering due to going to daycare..." Seriously? The child SUFFERS in daycare?

                If a mother decided to be a stay at home mom because she felt the child would SUFFER in daycare, you'd be all over that. All over it.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by MS Mom View Post
                  Generally speaking, you can't pick and choose whether you go to (and therefore pay for) daycare on a day to day basis.

                  "If you can prove very clearly that the child is suffering due to going to daycare..." Seriously? The child SUFFERS in daycare?

                  If a mother decided to be a stay at home mom because she felt the child would SUFFER in daycare, you'd be all over that. All over it.
                  If a kid is suffering whatever the circumstance it must be fixed, even if it isn't fair to somebody

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Links17 View Post
                    If a kid is suffering whatever the circumstance it must be fixed, even if it isn't fair to somebody
                    Except the OP doesn't mention a child suffering. The OP only mentions the child is in daycare when the other parent is available. Unless daycare is a new word for prison, why jump to a conclusion that the child is suffering?

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                    • #11
                      The point is being made that it's the other parent's time and the daycare is to facilitate work. Unless daycare is having a negative effect on the child or the child is suffering then there is no issue with the other parent having the child in daycare during their time, even if the other parent is available during the other parent's work hours.

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                      • #12
                        daycare is a form of prison for children, they are obliged to be there and they have no choice

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                        • #13
                          Good job link, you got 3 (or 4?) bites on your 'suffering' line.

                          It's aggravating to have to pay for the other parent's daycare when you are able to provide care yourself.

                          OTOH, daycare providers require commitment to a regular ft or pt schedule, and there can be problems if offering parent is not committed to a regular schedule?

                          But, from what I've seen/read, yes, the cp can choose daycare over the other parent's care.
                          Last edited by dinkyface; 08-03-2016, 12:09 AM.

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                          • #14
                            The funny thing is the "suffering" line is based on something I know and you don't

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