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Old 04-07-2021, 01:44 PM
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I started paying myself a small salary after my business qualified for the wage subsidy. I don't deserve to be put out on the streets because my ex decided he didn't want to support our joint lifestyle together. He wants our kids and him to live the good life while trying to force me to start from scratch.

He isnt putting you out into the streets. You chose to open a business and pay your new bf rather than take an income. You are also wasting money on legal arguments to create entitlement. Your ex is no longer responsible for you and you need to accept that. Because he worked hard and in a field where he earns more he has to keep you? Because you chose a risky career and made bad financial decisions he should keep you. If you think someone else should support you then go out and find another sugar daddy to do so.


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Old 04-07-2021, 01:46 PM
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I will never be able to earn as much as he does. He has a professional degree. I only have a college diploma. I need time to get myself started up and running. He just needs to support me until I do.

Id like to note that my career is based on my college diploma and I make a very healthy salary. Sure I worked hard to get here but I also wouldnt make a bone headed decision to quit and start my own business.


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Old 04-09-2021, 01:34 PM
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Oh iona, go back and read this one�s posts. She quit her relatively high paying job to start her own business, pays her new bf a salary but not herself and has expected her ex to pay for her lifestyle the last four years. He�s finally pulled the trigger on ending this mess but she wants to continue to live the high life on his dime.


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fucking yikes. I read the other thread of the OP.

The level of entitlement is strong with this one.
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Old 04-09-2021, 10:24 PM
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He isn�t putting you out into the streets. You chose to open a business and pay your new bf rather than take an income. You are also wasting money on legal arguments to create entitlement. Your ex is no longer responsible for you and you need to accept that. Because he worked hard and in a field where he earns more he has to keep you? Because you chose a risky career and made bad financial decisions he should keep you. If you think someone else should support you then go out and find another sugar daddy to do so.


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When my ex husband met me I was successfully running 2 businesses which I sold. After the sale I didn't get properly paid out and ended up in a legal battle with my ex business partner that lasted years. My ex didn't seem to mind living off of me for a couple years when he wasn't making money. It's not fair that he decided he can just ditch me when I'm older, gave him 2 kids and don't make as much as I used to.
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Old 04-09-2021, 10:25 PM
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fucking yikes. I read the other thread of the OP.

The level of entitlement is strong with this one.
I am trying to come out of this divorce with what I deserve.
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Old 04-09-2021, 10:45 PM
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When my ex husband met me I was successfully running 2 businesses which I sold. After the sale I didn't get properly paid out and ended up in a legal battle with my ex business partner that lasted years. My ex didn't seem to mind living off of me for a couple years when he wasn't making money. It's not fair that he decided he can just ditch me when I'm older, gave him 2 kids and don't make as much as I used to.

Or you thought you were entitled like you are now and you wasted money on a fight.

Now your ex was out of work and lived off you. Your story keeps changing. Im sure his side would be quite interesting.

The bottom line is, you arent entitled to what you think you are and keep grasping at different things to try to get what you want versus what you actually deserve.


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Old 04-09-2021, 11:11 PM
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Reading Iona and rockscan call out greed and entitlement (not referring to the legal definition) puts a smile on my face given my situation
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Old 04-10-2021, 11:29 AM
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Or you thought you were entitled like you are now and you wasted money on a fight.

Now your ex was out of work and lived off you. Your story keeps changing. Im sure his side would be quite interesting.

The bottom line is, you aren�t entitled to what you think you are and keep grasping at different things to try to get what you want versus what you actually deserve.


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My story has never changed. I just didn't give all the details I didn't think were relevant while asking for advice on the forum.

When my ex husband and I first met I was running 2 very successful businesses and he was finishing his CPA program so I supported him financially and paid off some of his debt. Later on I ended up selling my portion of the business to my business partner after 1.5 years into the relationship with my ex. The money for the sale of the business was supposed to be given to me later on so we lived and spent on this expectation. Unfortunately my business partner screwed me and didn't pay me out and my ex husband had to borrow from family and friends to pay down living expenses (which he repaid but is claiming he didn't).
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Old 04-10-2021, 03:08 PM
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All of that is considered marital debt and expenses. You cant argue you deserve extra money because you put him through school. The court doesnt look at it that way. Plus you waited four years and made a poor financial decision starting another business during that time. You need to look at date of marriage and date of separation. You can make an offer but if he says no, you are not guaranteed to get it in court and run the risk of costs.

Again, you end up wasting money on the fight which puts you in the position you dont want to be in as loser mom.


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Old 04-10-2021, 03:38 PM
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to OP

just listen to rockscan and Iona. Yes they may sound harsh and their words are bursting more bubbles than kids blowing them but it is a lot cheaper. The only thing worth fighting for are your kids wellbeing.
The relationship is long and over. Make an offer and make the best out of your life.
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