Maybe it is just us, but does anyone else experience issues with the other parent imposing punishments on the kids and expecting them to always be carried over? I understand the importance of co-parenting and supporting the other parent however it always seems when we have the kids for an extended period of time, all the sudden they are being punished for something.
At Christmas, my partner received a text from his ex stating that S9 was grounded from all electronics for the entire Christmas break. She knew full well we bougth his sister an ipod (he already had one) and they always played a certian game on his, so now they could play together. She expected us to stick to the punishment of no electronics. We did, but it ment he wasn't able to play with his sister, or watch his new movie.
Tonight he gets a text saying son was once again grounded from all electronics for all of March Break. We have the kids for March break, so once again she is imposing a punishment that directly affects our time. THe kids don't spend a huge amount of time on their electronics and we have a few outtings planned, but it is rather frustrating that she imposes these punishments on our time.
My partner responded to his ex and stated that this is the last time we would stick to her punishment that effects his parenting time, unless she discusses it with him in advance. If she wants to co-parent he feels he should be involved in the decisions. She responded with a rant about how she can't always keep him in the loop and he needs to co-parent with her and not work against her.
What would you do in this situation? Just an fyi, this exact thing happened twice in the summer, right before our weeks with the children. He wants to co-parent and be a united front with her, but she would never follow through on any punishment he imposed.
S9 was punished with this because he told his Mom he put all his clothes in the laundry room and it turns out he had an outfit behind his door he didn't take.
At Christmas, my partner received a text from his ex stating that S9 was grounded from all electronics for the entire Christmas break. She knew full well we bougth his sister an ipod (he already had one) and they always played a certian game on his, so now they could play together. She expected us to stick to the punishment of no electronics. We did, but it ment he wasn't able to play with his sister, or watch his new movie.
Tonight he gets a text saying son was once again grounded from all electronics for all of March Break. We have the kids for March break, so once again she is imposing a punishment that directly affects our time. THe kids don't spend a huge amount of time on their electronics and we have a few outtings planned, but it is rather frustrating that she imposes these punishments on our time.
My partner responded to his ex and stated that this is the last time we would stick to her punishment that effects his parenting time, unless she discusses it with him in advance. If she wants to co-parent he feels he should be involved in the decisions. She responded with a rant about how she can't always keep him in the loop and he needs to co-parent with her and not work against her.
What would you do in this situation? Just an fyi, this exact thing happened twice in the summer, right before our weeks with the children. He wants to co-parent and be a united front with her, but she would never follow through on any punishment he imposed.
S9 was punished with this because he told his Mom he put all his clothes in the laundry room and it turns out he had an outfit behind his door he didn't take.
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