well after 12 years this marriage is ending. The main reasons are financial. Him getting a 75,000 inheritence and gambling 40,000 of it away. He made a promise to match what my mom helped us out with on the downpayment but didn't. Sure over the years he did gamble but hid how much. Glad I had separate bank accounts. He took of his wedding band over two months ago. I just took mine off January 1st. He is already dating and even asked if he could bring her here on New years eve and sleep in the bed with her that he and i shared for 15 years.
he already has a lawyer and he(stbx) says i have to fill out a financial statment and give him all the papers dealing with the house mortgage and my tax stuff. I have not responded to that yet.
Now for the fun part. he has been badgering me about getting back together and when i refuse he starts calling me names and such. Well today he started up again. He called me a fucking bitch and a cunt. He knows how to push my buttons. I yelled back at him. Well get this, he leaves his email open and there is an email to his lawyer saying that he had to physically defend himself against me and he reported it to the police. I never raised a hand to him, in fact two weeks ago he grabbed me when i tried to stop him from entering the room i sleep in.Now he wants an interm order for possession of the house. I think he just wants his "new gf" and her kid to move in. He is the one who makes more money, he has places where he can live, i do not. He sent me an email saying that it is officailly going to get nasty, well never thought lies would be part of it. Now he wants to communicate just by email which is fine by me.
Does he have a chance to get possession of the house?? The police never called me or anything about the so called assault. I avoid him in the house by either watching tv downstairs or i am on my laptop in the bedroom. He gets upset when i do not spend time with him, but i get sick of rehasing the same shit over and over again. Now that i know what he is trying to do, i will avoid talking to him at all whenever i can.
Where do I go from here?? I want to see if my mom can help me buy him out and at the start he was willing to wait until the end of January, now he is forcing it. He actually told me his lawyer said that he can get more then half the value of the house if I buy him out because he is the one that will be leaving. WTF! I want to be fair to him but also do not want to get bullied. I know that I will not get the money i put for the downpayment, which was double what he put down, and i figure even though my mom signed a letter stating her 15,000 was a gift to me , that is gone also, so he is already making out pretty good. He even expects to get gifts my mom gave me over the course of the relationship. Heck she bought me all the appliances for the house, the bill of sale is in her name. He said he would fight me for them. Is stuff i bought before we were married but living together, that i paid fully for, belong just to me?
I know a long post that is all over the place. Stuff is happening too fast, but i think he had this planned for a while.
he already has a lawyer and he(stbx) says i have to fill out a financial statment and give him all the papers dealing with the house mortgage and my tax stuff. I have not responded to that yet.
Now for the fun part. he has been badgering me about getting back together and when i refuse he starts calling me names and such. Well today he started up again. He called me a fucking bitch and a cunt. He knows how to push my buttons. I yelled back at him. Well get this, he leaves his email open and there is an email to his lawyer saying that he had to physically defend himself against me and he reported it to the police. I never raised a hand to him, in fact two weeks ago he grabbed me when i tried to stop him from entering the room i sleep in.Now he wants an interm order for possession of the house. I think he just wants his "new gf" and her kid to move in. He is the one who makes more money, he has places where he can live, i do not. He sent me an email saying that it is officailly going to get nasty, well never thought lies would be part of it. Now he wants to communicate just by email which is fine by me.
Does he have a chance to get possession of the house?? The police never called me or anything about the so called assault. I avoid him in the house by either watching tv downstairs or i am on my laptop in the bedroom. He gets upset when i do not spend time with him, but i get sick of rehasing the same shit over and over again. Now that i know what he is trying to do, i will avoid talking to him at all whenever i can.
Where do I go from here?? I want to see if my mom can help me buy him out and at the start he was willing to wait until the end of January, now he is forcing it. He actually told me his lawyer said that he can get more then half the value of the house if I buy him out because he is the one that will be leaving. WTF! I want to be fair to him but also do not want to get bullied. I know that I will not get the money i put for the downpayment, which was double what he put down, and i figure even though my mom signed a letter stating her 15,000 was a gift to me , that is gone also, so he is already making out pretty good. He even expects to get gifts my mom gave me over the course of the relationship. Heck she bought me all the appliances for the house, the bill of sale is in her name. He said he would fight me for them. Is stuff i bought before we were married but living together, that i paid fully for, belong just to me?
I know a long post that is all over the place. Stuff is happening too fast, but i think he had this planned for a while.
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