My ex and I have been separated just shy of 4 years now, we have both moved on with our lives (basically) and the custody/child support final order is in place.
At this point I am starting to think about the possibility of starting divorce proceedings. Originally when I started the custody/support case, my ex's lawyer made a claim to the court that they would be filing for the divorce and moving the case to Superior - this never did happen.
The issue I have is this - during the custody/support case my ex filed his financial statement and listed a pile of debts that I have no clue about. There could very well be a few items where he got himself store credit near the end of the marriage for his failed attempt at a construction business that I was not involved with - in fact I went back into the work force because he didn't appear to be making any money in his business venture, and the bills that I was aware of (rent, utilities) were falling severely behind because of it.
I have been slowly trying to build my credit over these years since we separated, and I know nothing of the bills he claimed on his financial statement (in fact the one paper he provided as 'proof' for a debt was addressed to him at a place he lived 2 years after we separated), and since he does not pay for mail forwarding, and it was directly listed for the address, I can only assume this was a debt incurred after the break-up.
My fear is this - I start divorce proceedings which drag out because he is going to attempt to saddle me with yet more debt that I was
Obviously things will drag on incessantly because of this, making the divorce stall. I took on 2 vehicle repossessions because of the marriage breakup, not to mention the more than $5000 in debt that I ended up covering because he wrote cheques at a number of pay-day loan locations after the separation on our joint account that I had not yet been able to move all my deposits etc out from, as well as unpaid rent and utilities for the place we were living in at the time of separation.
Is the timeline for division of debts 6 years after a separation? Can a divorce be pushed through without having to deal with the matter concerning debts that I will of course request proof of etc. If I end up saddled with yet more debt, barely seeing any child support, just barely scraping by as it is, I fear that I will be forced into bankruptcy and lose my vehicle that I was finally able to get a bank loan to afford, as the children and I live away from the city, nothing is in walking distance and public transportation is non-existent.
I guess I'm just wondering what I should do at this point, and what the possibilities are.
Thanks.
At this point I am starting to think about the possibility of starting divorce proceedings. Originally when I started the custody/support case, my ex's lawyer made a claim to the court that they would be filing for the divorce and moving the case to Superior - this never did happen.
The issue I have is this - during the custody/support case my ex filed his financial statement and listed a pile of debts that I have no clue about. There could very well be a few items where he got himself store credit near the end of the marriage for his failed attempt at a construction business that I was not involved with - in fact I went back into the work force because he didn't appear to be making any money in his business venture, and the bills that I was aware of (rent, utilities) were falling severely behind because of it.
I have been slowly trying to build my credit over these years since we separated, and I know nothing of the bills he claimed on his financial statement (in fact the one paper he provided as 'proof' for a debt was addressed to him at a place he lived 2 years after we separated), and since he does not pay for mail forwarding, and it was directly listed for the address, I can only assume this was a debt incurred after the break-up.
My fear is this - I start divorce proceedings which drag out because he is going to attempt to saddle me with yet more debt that I was
- Not aware of, did not use, did not sign for, did not cause, did not have any part of
- Was incurred after the date of separation
- Debt he listed but doesn't appear to be getting 'chased' for and makes no payments on
Obviously things will drag on incessantly because of this, making the divorce stall. I took on 2 vehicle repossessions because of the marriage breakup, not to mention the more than $5000 in debt that I ended up covering because he wrote cheques at a number of pay-day loan locations after the separation on our joint account that I had not yet been able to move all my deposits etc out from, as well as unpaid rent and utilities for the place we were living in at the time of separation.
Is the timeline for division of debts 6 years after a separation? Can a divorce be pushed through without having to deal with the matter concerning debts that I will of course request proof of etc. If I end up saddled with yet more debt, barely seeing any child support, just barely scraping by as it is, I fear that I will be forced into bankruptcy and lose my vehicle that I was finally able to get a bank loan to afford, as the children and I live away from the city, nothing is in walking distance and public transportation is non-existent.
I guess I'm just wondering what I should do at this point, and what the possibilities are.
Thanks.
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