i could use some advice or insight
married 25 years,of which my wife did not work years 3 and 4 but had worked all others,she doubled my wage for those years as a semi professional [accounting]then she had a failed business which caused myself to go bankrupt,lost house and 2 cars as it was never incorporated and i was told it was and business was also doing fine.. I KNOW I SHOULD HAVE CHECKED BUT SEVEN YEARS DATING AND 25 YEARS MARRIED ,I TRUSTED HER .
marriage was in trouble for awhile before this and the business ended it .she asked me to leave home , easiest decision i ever made ..i did leave with the last of 3 children, a 16 year old , following me mths later ,he chose to stay originally because of friends in the area only ...no problem with his and my relationship .
my other 2 kids were at university and now have huge osap bills as a result of our financial blunder .... my youngest child is now at university and conti nues to live with me after school year [4 month summer ]and i cover all costs not covered by OSAP .including 4 mths rent at apartment in city while he is living and working with me
i live with my girlfriend of 4 years and share half the bills and continue to work at my job which just covers my bills with a bit of savings .my wife [ex] has never paid any child support and not one penny to any kids let alone our youngest and actually hasn't worked since the second year after we separated ,she has virtually no contact with any kids and now has huge oxy addictions and may never work ..i can't get her to go for divorce without huge scene and stirring the pot which in the past when i have tried ,has been scary involving POLICE having to deal with her...
i worry about ss claims among others because we are still married when all i want is to help my kids with loans and be able to eke out a existance doing so..that is main reason i have put off divorce ..a lawyer told me to wait 6 years because things would be more in my favour although there is no assets left obviously and her business debts are to government only and are totally in her name and i'm not responsible [i checked with them ,nervy eh/,LOL]
any responses would be appreciated
p.s. the months i was out of house without my son ,i paid 3 times the amount i was legally required to pay to float house and get her on her feet..
she lived with another man for about a year and worked at 3-5 other jobs over the next two years ,most of them paid more than i make but quit all of them for one reason or another
married 25 years,of which my wife did not work years 3 and 4 but had worked all others,she doubled my wage for those years as a semi professional [accounting]then she had a failed business which caused myself to go bankrupt,lost house and 2 cars as it was never incorporated and i was told it was and business was also doing fine.. I KNOW I SHOULD HAVE CHECKED BUT SEVEN YEARS DATING AND 25 YEARS MARRIED ,I TRUSTED HER .
marriage was in trouble for awhile before this and the business ended it .she asked me to leave home , easiest decision i ever made ..i did leave with the last of 3 children, a 16 year old , following me mths later ,he chose to stay originally because of friends in the area only ...no problem with his and my relationship .
my other 2 kids were at university and now have huge osap bills as a result of our financial blunder .... my youngest child is now at university and conti nues to live with me after school year [4 month summer ]and i cover all costs not covered by OSAP .including 4 mths rent at apartment in city while he is living and working with me
i live with my girlfriend of 4 years and share half the bills and continue to work at my job which just covers my bills with a bit of savings .my wife [ex] has never paid any child support and not one penny to any kids let alone our youngest and actually hasn't worked since the second year after we separated ,she has virtually no contact with any kids and now has huge oxy addictions and may never work ..i can't get her to go for divorce without huge scene and stirring the pot which in the past when i have tried ,has been scary involving POLICE having to deal with her...
i worry about ss claims among others because we are still married when all i want is to help my kids with loans and be able to eke out a existance doing so..that is main reason i have put off divorce ..a lawyer told me to wait 6 years because things would be more in my favour although there is no assets left obviously and her business debts are to government only and are totally in her name and i'm not responsible [i checked with them ,nervy eh/,LOL]
any responses would be appreciated
p.s. the months i was out of house without my son ,i paid 3 times the amount i was legally required to pay to float house and get her on her feet..
she lived with another man for about a year and worked at 3-5 other jobs over the next two years ,most of them paid more than i make but quit all of them for one reason or another
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