Hello and thanks for your help!
We got married about 8 years ago. I was an admitted washed up, flat broke Artist on a WCB disability pension and a long history of well documented anxiety disorder OCD. She accepted that came over from Germany and we lived in poverty for a couple years. She argued me into quitting my night time cleaning job.
When her family met me, they said they have never seen her so happy. Her Dear Mother who I love as my own Mother gifted us into our joint account enough money to open a store and other repairs in our home.
My wife has been gone for over a week and has no intention of ever living here again. She says she would like to recoup her investment.
The store was put in my son's myself and her name equally, and he lives above it in his apartment, In this village it only cost 140,000 and is payed for. The house is also needed for office etc. and is in my name equity approx 60,000 value 100.00.
I realize I owe her 30.000 for that plus half of contents.
My proposal, that she was very happy with, is that 1/3ed profits from store and house that will also become a store downstairs as it use to be would would be sent to her forever.
I have always trusted her and she was devoted to me.
I found out about 5 months ago that she was cheating.
I do understand the no fault divorce system and mention the following for reasons that will be clear.
She is with a married man that she sees infrequently. He seems to get a kick out of cheating on his older educated, hard working wife. He claims it's not lying but keeping a secret.
My wife went heavy into BDSM and calls him master. They were always texting and going on line whenever the Master could hide from his wife.
I actually tried to convince myself that I must become as she is to keep her and built a bedroom dungeon/playroom for us.
I went to the secret meetings and a dungeon party. I tried to brainwash myself to be one of them. I also went to poly amorous meetings to get me to understand that it's OK for her to have me as husband and also be head over heals in love with her master. She encouraged me to cheat with the wives of friends and customers saying that cheating is no big deal and society is wrong.
I had enough because these are values that I will never except and I wish I had never looked into the dungeon door.
Although no fault divorce, I can not trust this Master because he has some control of her mind. Therefor I am not sure what is coming next. He is terrified of me of exposing him but is her Master and may influence her. I want her to have an easy life and not have to work to hard and always keep my word. She calls her self a Goddess and I fear for her mental health. She is 40 and I do know about midlife crises.
Questions:
1-Can she force sale of the house?
2-Is this really a case of recouping her investment since it was given to us because her Mother that finally thought that she will not change men every 5 years as always and the money was to give us a store and income?
3-Am I being fair with my offer?
4-Can she take the store that my son and I need desperately to survive and is his home?
5-Who has the leverage here me or her?
I can run a store but am pretty well unemployable at mid 50's, with my long history of mental illness.
She left the store and went to collage to become an RMT over a year ago and should make good money in a year. While at school her Mom pays for everything including housing but is very upset and disrespects all my wife has done regarding this situation.
My wife seems to be worried about alimony and I have told her it's absurd and that I would never ever ask nor can I because she is a student.
I don't think she will try anything but since she has a master that ties her up and spanks her, I have less trust than ever. I Also believe that she has lost her moral compass since her master/boyfriend doesn't seem to even understand what truth is. My son and I are obsessed with truth and consider lying repugnant.
Thank you very much for any advice.
We got married about 8 years ago. I was an admitted washed up, flat broke Artist on a WCB disability pension and a long history of well documented anxiety disorder OCD. She accepted that came over from Germany and we lived in poverty for a couple years. She argued me into quitting my night time cleaning job.
When her family met me, they said they have never seen her so happy. Her Dear Mother who I love as my own Mother gifted us into our joint account enough money to open a store and other repairs in our home.
My wife has been gone for over a week and has no intention of ever living here again. She says she would like to recoup her investment.
The store was put in my son's myself and her name equally, and he lives above it in his apartment, In this village it only cost 140,000 and is payed for. The house is also needed for office etc. and is in my name equity approx 60,000 value 100.00.
I realize I owe her 30.000 for that plus half of contents.
My proposal, that she was very happy with, is that 1/3ed profits from store and house that will also become a store downstairs as it use to be would would be sent to her forever.
I have always trusted her and she was devoted to me.
I found out about 5 months ago that she was cheating.
I do understand the no fault divorce system and mention the following for reasons that will be clear.
She is with a married man that she sees infrequently. He seems to get a kick out of cheating on his older educated, hard working wife. He claims it's not lying but keeping a secret.
My wife went heavy into BDSM and calls him master. They were always texting and going on line whenever the Master could hide from his wife.
I actually tried to convince myself that I must become as she is to keep her and built a bedroom dungeon/playroom for us.
I went to the secret meetings and a dungeon party. I tried to brainwash myself to be one of them. I also went to poly amorous meetings to get me to understand that it's OK for her to have me as husband and also be head over heals in love with her master. She encouraged me to cheat with the wives of friends and customers saying that cheating is no big deal and society is wrong.
I had enough because these are values that I will never except and I wish I had never looked into the dungeon door.
Although no fault divorce, I can not trust this Master because he has some control of her mind. Therefor I am not sure what is coming next. He is terrified of me of exposing him but is her Master and may influence her. I want her to have an easy life and not have to work to hard and always keep my word. She calls her self a Goddess and I fear for her mental health. She is 40 and I do know about midlife crises.
Questions:
1-Can she force sale of the house?
2-Is this really a case of recouping her investment since it was given to us because her Mother that finally thought that she will not change men every 5 years as always and the money was to give us a store and income?
3-Am I being fair with my offer?
4-Can she take the store that my son and I need desperately to survive and is his home?
5-Who has the leverage here me or her?
I can run a store but am pretty well unemployable at mid 50's, with my long history of mental illness.
She left the store and went to collage to become an RMT over a year ago and should make good money in a year. While at school her Mom pays for everything including housing but is very upset and disrespects all my wife has done regarding this situation.
My wife seems to be worried about alimony and I have told her it's absurd and that I would never ever ask nor can I because she is a student.
I don't think she will try anything but since she has a master that ties her up and spanks her, I have less trust than ever. I Also believe that she has lost her moral compass since her master/boyfriend doesn't seem to even understand what truth is. My son and I are obsessed with truth and consider lying repugnant.
Thank you very much for any advice.
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