Kimberley,
You said "Not every CP is a greedy money-hungry heartless witch. My children have a human right to be provided for by both parents. We both agreed to having them to begin with, and being separated with his moving out doesn't relieve him of his duty to his children.
Trust me, I get the anger, the frustration, the stress, but remember when you are venting there are CPs on this forum who only want what is right for their children and are fighting for that when you comment and generalize CPs, NCPs, Exes, new spouses etc etc."
I agree with you and I realize that not every CP trys to get their ex to pay for everything. I feel for your situation where you are not getting any support at all.
Actually we are in very similar situations, your children are not getting the support they deserve, and my children are not getting the support they deserve.
In our case we do have a situation where the amount of CS, extras and access costs really are much too high. But I agree 100% with you when you say " My children have a human right to be provided for by both parents." So do mine and all kids.
The guidelines need to be amended so that parents who pay are only expected to contribute REASONABLE amounts, based on the cost of raising kids and shared between the parnets. And they need to take into consideration that the NCP has living expenses too.
I hope you realize that by sharing our stories, we are not trying to "take away" from the problems you are having. Your problems are very real, and most people are very familiar with the problems faced by single moms who do not recieve any support.
But I think this forum has room for our problems too, that family #2 is not acknowledged as existing when they assign money to family #1, and in many cases we have a real struggle just as you do.
I also think that it's very sad that his ex wife moved away, and now all the kids are suffering for it, their kids as they don't get to see their dad much, and our kids because paying 100% of the access costs leaves next to nothing for them.
There needs to be balance for both situations like yours and mine.
You said "Not every CP is a greedy money-hungry heartless witch. My children have a human right to be provided for by both parents. We both agreed to having them to begin with, and being separated with his moving out doesn't relieve him of his duty to his children.
Trust me, I get the anger, the frustration, the stress, but remember when you are venting there are CPs on this forum who only want what is right for their children and are fighting for that when you comment and generalize CPs, NCPs, Exes, new spouses etc etc."
I agree with you and I realize that not every CP trys to get their ex to pay for everything. I feel for your situation where you are not getting any support at all.
Actually we are in very similar situations, your children are not getting the support they deserve, and my children are not getting the support they deserve.
In our case we do have a situation where the amount of CS, extras and access costs really are much too high. But I agree 100% with you when you say " My children have a human right to be provided for by both parents." So do mine and all kids.
The guidelines need to be amended so that parents who pay are only expected to contribute REASONABLE amounts, based on the cost of raising kids and shared between the parnets. And they need to take into consideration that the NCP has living expenses too.
I hope you realize that by sharing our stories, we are not trying to "take away" from the problems you are having. Your problems are very real, and most people are very familiar with the problems faced by single moms who do not recieve any support.
But I think this forum has room for our problems too, that family #2 is not acknowledged as existing when they assign money to family #1, and in many cases we have a real struggle just as you do.
I also think that it's very sad that his ex wife moved away, and now all the kids are suffering for it, their kids as they don't get to see their dad much, and our kids because paying 100% of the access costs leaves next to nothing for them.
There needs to be balance for both situations like yours and mine.
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