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Old 09-16-2020, 07:07 PM
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I responded with thanks to you Janus but it got sent for moderator approval. It may show up later. Thanks.
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Old 09-16-2020, 08:39 PM
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If she filed with FRO then the time for agreement is over. She can continue to collect on the income in the agreement until you can prove a terminating factor EVEN IF YOUR INCOME GOES DOWN.

FRO doesn’t care about anything except the order on file which is why you need to file. Its a 15A motion to change. You can send her an email requesting to update child support amicably and withdraw from FRO and if you dont hear from her within 48 hours you will be filing a motion to change with the courts. Fill out all the paperwork and when she doesn't reply, go to the courthouse and file.

The longer you wait the more you accrue in arrears. You can also go and speak to someone in the FLIC office at your courthouse for help if necessary.
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Old 09-21-2020, 06:08 PM
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I emailed my ex asking her to withdraw the FRO proceedings until I was gainfully employed.
The reply was an offer for her to take 100% custody, me to continue paying current amount to FRO, and she would wait to file a motion for the new amount based on 100% custody until i was finished my Second Creer in December. I did not reply to the email.

I have all the paperwork and I am working on filing a motion to change the order. I have to wait until next week as due to Covid they are not giving out court dates yet.

Should I look to change the support right back to my change in circumstances in April or from date of filing?
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Old 09-21-2020, 07:10 PM
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From date of change in circumstances. Your ex is hilarious with the agree to a total change in custody. People are such jerks.
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Old 10-26-2020, 04:59 PM
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Just a quick update to my situation.
I got the paperwork filed Oct 2nd to adjust the child support and a court date for Nov 18th.
Served ex couple days later.
Contacted FRO as advised and asked for them to back off until hearing and was told no.
Ex filed Sept 30th for arrears.
FRO contacted Oct 14th for arrears.
Ex tried to serve her response day before I buried my younger sister who died 3 days before. Ex knew and sent her condolences. LOL
The same night my daughters disclosed that their Mom had convinced them to move in 100% because I was out of work and it would help me. But it had to kept a secret. Ex tried to serve paperwork before my daughters told me but failed.
Paperwork in the mail with god knows what bullshit related to taking my kids away to ensure income stream stays towards her.
Today - Received FRO Federal Support Deduction Notice. I'm still broke and in school.

Plan:
Receive paperwork and obtain Legal Aid help.
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Old 10-26-2020, 06:52 PM
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Have you said anything to them about saying that? Do you think they will stay with her?

You can dispute the arrears but I would wait for the first conference and ask for an order to pause the collection (theres a name for it that I cant think of) of arrears.

Expect her to have a pile of bullshit in her response. Ignore it.


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Old 10-26-2020, 07:14 PM
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Both are old enough to do what they want and I have advised them of their power in this situation. My youngest is 100% in the loop as to what her mom is trying to do and she is pissed. My Ex is afraid she will move in with me after her plan produced so much blowback.
My eldest is almost 18 and sick of the shit between us. I don't really talk with her more "very diplomatically" to her. Little bits at a time while reassuring her that I am genuinely interested in her being here. I don't involve the kids in my dealings with my Ex and wish my Ex would not, but she consistently does. Hence my eldest being sick of it.
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Old 10-26-2020, 08:24 PM
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As long as you leave her out of it then there is nothing more you can do. I remember getting to a point at 20 where I finally stood up to my mom and told her I wasnt playing into her bs with my dad anymore. It was hell for about a week but after that my mom found a new thing to focus on.

Just remind them that you love them and want what is best for them and leave it at that.


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