Hi all...wanted to get some feedback on a situation my husband is going through in the hopes it will aid him in his decision on how to handle this....
They have a court order about a year old that updated some issues they didn't see eye to eye on in regards to section 7 expenses.
They agreed in a case conference with the judge that he would pay 50%, his proportionate share, of $3800 per year. As my husband remembers it, this amount included girl guides, 2 weeks of summer camp, tutoring & child care. Receipts were submitted for all these expenses except for child care. The judge allowed for her to make an estimate for some reason.
When my husband received his copy of the new court order from this appearance we were a little surprised that none of the details of these section 7 expenses were included in the order.
It simply states he is to pay $158 per month for section 7 expenses. It also states the mother is to provide copies of the receipts for section 7 expenses prior to December 31st each year. There is also no mention of updating this amount yearly or otherwise.
My husband received receipts for 2013 from the mother recently. These included receipts swimming lessons, 3 weeks of summer camp, karate, sewing club, march break camp, tutoring & child care from June to Dec. These receipts total $5200 and she is expecting that my husband increase his monthly contribution.
He has a few issues with the receipts he received
1. swimming receipts--was brought up in court and denied
2. summer camp---only agreed to 2 weeks not 3
3. karate----the fee for karate is 3 times higher than girl guides
4. sewing club---was brought up in court and denied
5. march break camp --- only agreed to summer camp
6. tutoring---submitted the same receipt from court dated 2012 & altered it
7. child care---receipt was authored by mom's BFF who works outside of the home. Husband has picked child up from this woman many times over the past 9 years. Has never charged in the past.
As we speak my husband is at the court house requesting a copy of the transcript from their last appearance when section 7 expenses were settled.
We are now trying to figure out how to handle this.
He doesn't plan on agreeing or denying her demands until he receives the transcript. He doesn't want to rely on memory alone. I
In the meantime should he question the child care receipt & the tutoring receipt?
His daughter has confirmed that she is going to tutoring. He isn't able to call the tutor himself to confirm because he has no right to speak to the tutor & he has no information about the tutor. She is a teacher who provides the service on the side. The receipt is simply a letter dated Sept 2012 that was provided to the court indicating she has been tutoring the child for the 3 years, how much she charges per hour and approximately how many weeks a years she meets with the child. The mother made a note in her handwriting indicating the day of the week has changed and how many weeks per year the child attended for 2013.
As for child care.....it has been common practice for many years for the child to attend camp once a month in the summer and be passed back n forth between grandparents and mom's BFF for the remaining weeks. There has never been any receipts generated by family/friends for this. It is also suspicious that there was no expense for child care between Jan & June. The child turned 11 yrs old in the fall of 2013. When my husband asked his daughter what she does after school she said she hangs out with her friend Alyssa who is mom's BFF's daughter.
On a side note...this woman is a crazy pit bull. She has to be right about everything. She is very narcissistic, hypocrytical & has to win at all costs. We are trying to handle this in the best way possible without igniting a war with her while continuing to be fair and follow the order.
Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated.
They have a court order about a year old that updated some issues they didn't see eye to eye on in regards to section 7 expenses.
They agreed in a case conference with the judge that he would pay 50%, his proportionate share, of $3800 per year. As my husband remembers it, this amount included girl guides, 2 weeks of summer camp, tutoring & child care. Receipts were submitted for all these expenses except for child care. The judge allowed for her to make an estimate for some reason.
When my husband received his copy of the new court order from this appearance we were a little surprised that none of the details of these section 7 expenses were included in the order.
It simply states he is to pay $158 per month for section 7 expenses. It also states the mother is to provide copies of the receipts for section 7 expenses prior to December 31st each year. There is also no mention of updating this amount yearly or otherwise.
My husband received receipts for 2013 from the mother recently. These included receipts swimming lessons, 3 weeks of summer camp, karate, sewing club, march break camp, tutoring & child care from June to Dec. These receipts total $5200 and she is expecting that my husband increase his monthly contribution.
He has a few issues with the receipts he received
1. swimming receipts--was brought up in court and denied
2. summer camp---only agreed to 2 weeks not 3
3. karate----the fee for karate is 3 times higher than girl guides
4. sewing club---was brought up in court and denied
5. march break camp --- only agreed to summer camp
6. tutoring---submitted the same receipt from court dated 2012 & altered it
7. child care---receipt was authored by mom's BFF who works outside of the home. Husband has picked child up from this woman many times over the past 9 years. Has never charged in the past.
As we speak my husband is at the court house requesting a copy of the transcript from their last appearance when section 7 expenses were settled.
We are now trying to figure out how to handle this.
He doesn't plan on agreeing or denying her demands until he receives the transcript. He doesn't want to rely on memory alone. I
In the meantime should he question the child care receipt & the tutoring receipt?
His daughter has confirmed that she is going to tutoring. He isn't able to call the tutor himself to confirm because he has no right to speak to the tutor & he has no information about the tutor. She is a teacher who provides the service on the side. The receipt is simply a letter dated Sept 2012 that was provided to the court indicating she has been tutoring the child for the 3 years, how much she charges per hour and approximately how many weeks a years she meets with the child. The mother made a note in her handwriting indicating the day of the week has changed and how many weeks per year the child attended for 2013.
As for child care.....it has been common practice for many years for the child to attend camp once a month in the summer and be passed back n forth between grandparents and mom's BFF for the remaining weeks. There has never been any receipts generated by family/friends for this. It is also suspicious that there was no expense for child care between Jan & June. The child turned 11 yrs old in the fall of 2013. When my husband asked his daughter what she does after school she said she hangs out with her friend Alyssa who is mom's BFF's daughter.
On a side note...this woman is a crazy pit bull. She has to be right about everything. She is very narcissistic, hypocrytical & has to win at all costs. We are trying to handle this in the best way possible without igniting a war with her while continuing to be fair and follow the order.
Any comments or advice would be greatly appreciated.
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