Well.... As much I have total sympathy for the woman in that situation, the law isn't built for using financial support and equalization to teach someone a lesson.
I think the man in that story is mentally ill. What if it were a different illness? What if it were Alzheimer's? And what if the woman couldn't cope with that illness?
The divorce process isn't about blaming and finding fault. That was taken out of the system for good reason. It is also not about (or shouldn't be about) getting back at someone or punishing them or teaching them a lesson. Ideally the divorce process should be about letting go. The courts and lawyers aren't therapists, but to the extent that they ask us to look at things dispassionately and settle and move on, they are doing us an emotion good.
I think the man in that story is mentally ill. What if it were a different illness? What if it were Alzheimer's? And what if the woman couldn't cope with that illness?
The divorce process isn't about blaming and finding fault. That was taken out of the system for good reason. It is also not about (or shouldn't be about) getting back at someone or punishing them or teaching them a lesson. Ideally the divorce process should be about letting go. The courts and lawyers aren't therapists, but to the extent that they ask us to look at things dispassionately and settle and move on, they are doing us an emotion good.
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