Hey all, I am looking for opinions on a matter I am dealing with.
Backround, ex and I have a 9 year old daughter. EOW arrangement but 50/50 in the summer. 3 years ago my ex had a son with her current boyfriend. My wife and I are married with a 1 year old daughter.
Our 9 year old daughter is terrified of her brother, she has seemed down in the dumps for awhile and claims he is always throwing things at her, chases her, wakes her up in the middle of the night and is constantly trying to hurt her. My daughter is by no means a tough kid, I understand that. But she seems genuinely affected by her brothers actions. To the point where my wife was asking her about feelings and what would make her happy and what not, and she said the only thing that would make her happy was not having a brother. From what I can gather, her brother is mean to all women including my ex, grandmas and so on, but he is nice and friendly with guys (including me, he actually likes me). It doesn't help that our young daughter idolizes her older sister I am sure, she lights up and is so happy to have her older sister around and they have a great relationship. I wonder if I can broach the subject to my ex about how upset our daughter is about her brother? She mentioned casually that her mom and boyfriend are off for a week in the summer with her, but unfortunately her brother had to be home that week too.
I am just at a loss, my wife and I want to help my daughter as best we can, but its totally out of our control. She is genuinely showing signs of depression because of him and he is only 3 years old. Thank you for your help. She has been though a lot, with many many moves and school changes so far with her mom and I just want to do whats best for her.
Backround, ex and I have a 9 year old daughter. EOW arrangement but 50/50 in the summer. 3 years ago my ex had a son with her current boyfriend. My wife and I are married with a 1 year old daughter.
Our 9 year old daughter is terrified of her brother, she has seemed down in the dumps for awhile and claims he is always throwing things at her, chases her, wakes her up in the middle of the night and is constantly trying to hurt her. My daughter is by no means a tough kid, I understand that. But she seems genuinely affected by her brothers actions. To the point where my wife was asking her about feelings and what would make her happy and what not, and she said the only thing that would make her happy was not having a brother. From what I can gather, her brother is mean to all women including my ex, grandmas and so on, but he is nice and friendly with guys (including me, he actually likes me). It doesn't help that our young daughter idolizes her older sister I am sure, she lights up and is so happy to have her older sister around and they have a great relationship. I wonder if I can broach the subject to my ex about how upset our daughter is about her brother? She mentioned casually that her mom and boyfriend are off for a week in the summer with her, but unfortunately her brother had to be home that week too.
I am just at a loss, my wife and I want to help my daughter as best we can, but its totally out of our control. She is genuinely showing signs of depression because of him and he is only 3 years old. Thank you for your help. She has been though a lot, with many many moves and school changes so far with her mom and I just want to do whats best for her.
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