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Old 01-10-2013, 11:20 AM
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My ex scored an 18....I guess I am fairly lucky.
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Old 06-13-2013, 12:25 AM
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Originally Posted by blinkandimgone View Post
If you're unsure whether your child is suffering from one -or both - take the time to check out these online evaluations to help you decide if you should take things further:

Evaluating HAP Step 1

Determining Parental Alienation

Once you've completed the evaluation and gotten your score, check out the following link for recommended intervention:

Recommended intervention strategies
Scored 1105. Ouch.

There is a book called "Stop Walking on Eggshells - Taking back your life when someone you care about suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder".

The DSM IV has re-categorized BPD as Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

This book has been a life saver and a good start to understanding difficult relationships for those who score high. I'm not saying it is the answer for all, however when dealing with childhood PTSD and the person is an adult (like your ex) it has answered many questions.

For years I knew something was wrong, I just didn't know what. It is unfortunate that this difficult illness is passed from parent to child when left unchecked.

Thank you for this forum.
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Old 08-08-2013, 10:27 AM
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My kids are 14 & 17 and have been victims of PAS since they were young. It's a shame because unless the subject parent realizes what they are doing, it will never be corrected. My fear is that my poor children will carry this into their own personal relationships, thus, the domino effect on their own children.
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Old 08-08-2013, 12:22 PM
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I (or rather, my ex as perceived by me) got a 33 - I'm relatively lucky too. It was depressing just reading through the list of crappy things people do to their kids.
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Old 03-06-2014, 09:55 PM
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Thanks so much for this. My BF's ex scores 3047. OCL Disclosure is Monday. Five months of investigation and a long haul. Crossing our fingers they do the right thing and stop the abuse!

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Old 06-18-2014, 11:18 PM
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Scored 1556 in the HAP but no signs of PAS thank God!

Excellent resource- thanks for this!
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Old 11-06-2015, 10:02 PM
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Would someone be available for a short chat about this? My 8yo son has just began exhibiting symptoms and I'm still reading as much as I can. I could use an ear and an experienced parent, as I'm completely overwhelmed right now.
Any number of ways to communicate, whatever you're comfortable with. From email to phone.
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hap, hostile aggressive, parental alienation, pas

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