Hi everyone,
I am filling out my son's passport application and ofcourse there are questions re: the OP. I am a bit confused by the wording as I look at it now (order made in June/09), as well as what "isn't" specified.
It begins by stating "The Court Orders on Consent that; the mother shall have primary care and custody of the child, "Bobby" born on xx/xx/xx"
"The Respondent Father shall have access as follows" - and from there it goes on to outline and address EOW access, holidays (Easter/Christmas etc)"
"Each party shall have up to four full weeks of uninterrupted vacation each calendar year, during weeks that fall under "Bobby's" breaks from school. In the event they cannot agree, the Mother shall have her first choice of weeks in odd-numbered years w/a deadline of May 15th to inform the father of which weeks she intends to have such visitation, and the father shall have his first choice of weeks in even-numbered years w/a deadline of May 15th to inform the Mother of which weeks he intends to have such visitation."
*Note: he has never made the request, let alone by the "deadline" required, and has likely forgotten all about this clause*
"The parties shall cooperate in ensuring "Bobby" maintains a Passport. The mother shall prepare the paperwork and the father shall sign the application form, if required. The mother shall retain "Bobby's" passport unless the Father needs it for travel."
"The Mother shall not move out of Southwestern Ontario without first providing 60 days notice to the Father."
"The Mother shall make the daily decisions for Bobby"
Etc. Etc. Okay- so this order is signed by my (then) lawyer. It is not stamped by the Court. It's a photocopy basically. So my question is - without it saying "Joint Custody" "Shared Custody" or "Sole Custody" - what exactly DO I have? Sole custody w/access (to OP)? Joint Custody w/access (to OP)?
He has agreed to sign the passport application and I suppose what I need to send w/it is this "form 25" - still, I'd like to know what this forum's take on this arrangement is. Aside from EOW access, there is NO communication between father and son. Father does not ask or seem to care about school, (I make copies of progress reports and send to him), choice of High School, does not know any of our son's friends or their parents, has never attended the school for a function or parent-teacher meeting, and we as "parents" are very high conflict and it was decided long ago (2007) that we are better off not communicating at all, w/the exception of a very infrequent text message or email. Son is 13, so the routine is, EOW, father picks him up from school, and returns him Sunday, often late. Sometimes early (whatever suits him) and I usually get little or no notice, unless my son advises me.
I am filling out my son's passport application and ofcourse there are questions re: the OP. I am a bit confused by the wording as I look at it now (order made in June/09), as well as what "isn't" specified.
It begins by stating "The Court Orders on Consent that; the mother shall have primary care and custody of the child, "Bobby" born on xx/xx/xx"
"The Respondent Father shall have access as follows" - and from there it goes on to outline and address EOW access, holidays (Easter/Christmas etc)"
"Each party shall have up to four full weeks of uninterrupted vacation each calendar year, during weeks that fall under "Bobby's" breaks from school. In the event they cannot agree, the Mother shall have her first choice of weeks in odd-numbered years w/a deadline of May 15th to inform the father of which weeks she intends to have such visitation, and the father shall have his first choice of weeks in even-numbered years w/a deadline of May 15th to inform the Mother of which weeks he intends to have such visitation."
*Note: he has never made the request, let alone by the "deadline" required, and has likely forgotten all about this clause*
"The parties shall cooperate in ensuring "Bobby" maintains a Passport. The mother shall prepare the paperwork and the father shall sign the application form, if required. The mother shall retain "Bobby's" passport unless the Father needs it for travel."
"The Mother shall not move out of Southwestern Ontario without first providing 60 days notice to the Father."
"The Mother shall make the daily decisions for Bobby"
Etc. Etc. Okay- so this order is signed by my (then) lawyer. It is not stamped by the Court. It's a photocopy basically. So my question is - without it saying "Joint Custody" "Shared Custody" or "Sole Custody" - what exactly DO I have? Sole custody w/access (to OP)? Joint Custody w/access (to OP)?
He has agreed to sign the passport application and I suppose what I need to send w/it is this "form 25" - still, I'd like to know what this forum's take on this arrangement is. Aside from EOW access, there is NO communication between father and son. Father does not ask or seem to care about school, (I make copies of progress reports and send to him), choice of High School, does not know any of our son's friends or their parents, has never attended the school for a function or parent-teacher meeting, and we as "parents" are very high conflict and it was decided long ago (2007) that we are better off not communicating at all, w/the exception of a very infrequent text message or email. Son is 13, so the routine is, EOW, father picks him up from school, and returns him Sunday, often late. Sometimes early (whatever suits him) and I usually get little or no notice, unless my son advises me.
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