Hi Everyone,
Greatly appreciate the insight and advice received in this forum, it is truly invaluable to speak with people who have gone through similar situations. Its funny how many of us thought that all would be peachy in separation and divorce, but your ex's true colours seem to shine bright when in court!
We have a fairly fresh Court Order seeing a graduation to 50/50 parenting of 2 kids. The parenting time leading to 50/50 is absolutely terrible due to my ex being the worst person my lawyer ever had to negotiate with. No logic to arguments, and simply refused to give an inch and dragged her heels the whole way. Being at the end of my financial rope, I signed something I wasn't too pleased with but to ensure I locked in 50/50, whereby the road to 50/50 sucks in terms of parenting time. To be honest I was tapped financially and had to stop the litigation and continuing with the cycle of useless settlement conferences for us to be told the same thing over and over. It'll get better and I am doing my best to be patient----it really does suck to have minimal access to kids in their infancy. It is pure selfishness on her part in my view.
I fully understand that to change a Court Order, you need to demonstrate a material change in circumstance. Which the standard to do is VERY high, and most self-reps don't know what it means. It is without a doubt that my ex will try to weasel out of 50/50 as the date approaches, with nonsensical arguments on why the kids prefer her place or something. Or how things worked "fine" until leading to the 50/50 date....
However, is there the possibility to ask her to provide me with a little more parenting time during the graduation period to 50/50? Perhaps 2 extra dinner nights per month? Also, there are some housekeeping things that were overlooked in the Court Order, such as how we accidentally forgot to account for a few stat holidays. I certainly don't want to be appearing as high conflict, as I am sure she is currently working on her case to weasel out of 50/50 and is gathering any and all ammunition she can for her eventual case, but is there any harm in politely asking for a bit more parenting time even though we are pretty fresh into a court order? Or change court order to add stuff that has been missed?
Greatly appreciate the insight and advice received in this forum, it is truly invaluable to speak with people who have gone through similar situations. Its funny how many of us thought that all would be peachy in separation and divorce, but your ex's true colours seem to shine bright when in court!
We have a fairly fresh Court Order seeing a graduation to 50/50 parenting of 2 kids. The parenting time leading to 50/50 is absolutely terrible due to my ex being the worst person my lawyer ever had to negotiate with. No logic to arguments, and simply refused to give an inch and dragged her heels the whole way. Being at the end of my financial rope, I signed something I wasn't too pleased with but to ensure I locked in 50/50, whereby the road to 50/50 sucks in terms of parenting time. To be honest I was tapped financially and had to stop the litigation and continuing with the cycle of useless settlement conferences for us to be told the same thing over and over. It'll get better and I am doing my best to be patient----it really does suck to have minimal access to kids in their infancy. It is pure selfishness on her part in my view.
I fully understand that to change a Court Order, you need to demonstrate a material change in circumstance. Which the standard to do is VERY high, and most self-reps don't know what it means. It is without a doubt that my ex will try to weasel out of 50/50 as the date approaches, with nonsensical arguments on why the kids prefer her place or something. Or how things worked "fine" until leading to the 50/50 date....
However, is there the possibility to ask her to provide me with a little more parenting time during the graduation period to 50/50? Perhaps 2 extra dinner nights per month? Also, there are some housekeeping things that were overlooked in the Court Order, such as how we accidentally forgot to account for a few stat holidays. I certainly don't want to be appearing as high conflict, as I am sure she is currently working on her case to weasel out of 50/50 and is gathering any and all ammunition she can for her eventual case, but is there any harm in politely asking for a bit more parenting time even though we are pretty fresh into a court order? Or change court order to add stuff that has been missed?
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