Originally posted by representingself
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The judge didn't take the baby away. When we separated she moved out of the house and we initially had more or less equal time with them, but then she did go off the rails with addictions/mental health issues. After an OCL investigation recommnended sole custody for me, the writing was on the wall and we settled without a trial.
Unfortunately, the presumption that 18 month old "babies" need their mother more than their father is at the heart of the question posed in this thread. I don't buy it - not for one minute.
It's the involvement that the parent has in the child's day to day life that is important - and I was the primary caregiver. As I have said elsewhere in this forum, the fact is that Mom's still do most of the primary caregiving these days and that is what drives the decision to award custody to Mom in 80% of the cases. It's should not automatically be assumed that Mom should be favoured in caring for kids, no matter their age - and yes, that includes breast feeding mothers.
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