FRoR works with parents not in conflict but, they usually don't need an agreement as they don't interfere with each others lives and are mature about it. You can't force someone to be mature.
Your Social Worker - Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
Daycare in a high conflict situation is often used as a "tall fence" by judges and assessors.
Daycare is a tool that minimizes either parent to have to "depend on the other". It reduces the engagement in conflict.
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Your Social Worker - Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW
The greater the parental conflict the more likely that an increase of communication and expected cooperation will only intensify the conflict. As such, while interventions for the low to moderate conflicted separated parents can and should be aimed at facilitating communication and cooperation, with the high conflict separated parents interventions are best aimed at facilitating their disengagement. For the high conflict separated parents, the adage, tall fences make good neighbors should guide intervention.
The goal with high conflict separated parents is to structure a parenting plan that reduces the necessity for parental communication, contact and problem solving. To affect this, the parenting plan tends to be highly structured and somewhat rigid. Parents are not to rely upon each other. Each will have their own supports available to minimize either having to depend on the other understanding that all points of contact provide risk for re-engagement in conflict – poison to the children.
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