Okay- ex is an idiot. But now it's actually affecting D5
My ex has EOW and Wednesday evenings.
He has had full weekends with D5 since March.
For the last couple of months- 7 times in total. He has dropped her to school with some issue that manifests on her skin- or her stomach hurts. I've tracked every time the school has called me to go check on her- or have to bring her home.
Yesterday however, he dropped her to school DURING a really severe reaction. School has her checking in at 9:15, and she's itching uncontrollably from the get go. They try washing off her arms and face- and then the hives start.
They text both of us- she has hives near her eyes. And around her mouth (this is very much a food ingested reaction for her). On my drive over- I call him to ask what she had for breakfast- what she had last night. Anything different about her creams, etc. All really civil- I just want to know so I know whether they should epi or do I give her prescription anti-histamine. He refuses to answer "the regular pasta I feed her for breakfast. I used the cream you sent for her. I didn't bath her- just a wipe down". Okay. I get there and her skin is really red and itchy- this is just one system though (so you don't epi). I wait- I give her her Rupall. No relief- but not worse. I take her home and bath her -and she's crying because her skin hurts. She yells when I try to put on cream- cause she says her dad used a different cream and it hurt.
I call him back- "oh- actually- yeah I used ______ (not her cream)"- straight up lie. At this point I dont' want this to get any worse so I take her to emergency. Where they decide not to epi just yet- but gave her steroids and kept her there for observation.
He told me it's probably just a sunburn- she was out all weekend and he forgot sunscreen and a hat. Who the fuck forgets to put sunscreen or a hat on a 5 year old and stays out all day??? Yes- she's sunburned, but this ISN'T a sunburn.
The attending doctor said it's not topical- this is something she ate. I am 1000% sure ex is lying about what she ate. He said he prepared her food- 5 year old said her grandmother fed her (grandma is really really old).
I am fucking LIVID at this point but just held it in.
I make an urgent session wit hteh co-parent therapist. But I don't know what else to do. I want start proceedings to suspend his overnights temporarily until this gets sorted.
1. He dropped her to school DURING a reaction. She said she was itching in the morning and the school confirmed she arrived like that. He told them to give her ice to put on her skin (you never put ice on her eczema. You wash with cold water and apply prescription steroid ointment).
2. He straight up lies about the shit he feeds her, who's doing it, what is being used on her skin.
I'm at a loss.
Any suggestions are welcome.
My ex has EOW and Wednesday evenings.
He has had full weekends with D5 since March.
For the last couple of months- 7 times in total. He has dropped her to school with some issue that manifests on her skin- or her stomach hurts. I've tracked every time the school has called me to go check on her- or have to bring her home.
Yesterday however, he dropped her to school DURING a really severe reaction. School has her checking in at 9:15, and she's itching uncontrollably from the get go. They try washing off her arms and face- and then the hives start.
They text both of us- she has hives near her eyes. And around her mouth (this is very much a food ingested reaction for her). On my drive over- I call him to ask what she had for breakfast- what she had last night. Anything different about her creams, etc. All really civil- I just want to know so I know whether they should epi or do I give her prescription anti-histamine. He refuses to answer "the regular pasta I feed her for breakfast. I used the cream you sent for her. I didn't bath her- just a wipe down". Okay. I get there and her skin is really red and itchy- this is just one system though (so you don't epi). I wait- I give her her Rupall. No relief- but not worse. I take her home and bath her -and she's crying because her skin hurts. She yells when I try to put on cream- cause she says her dad used a different cream and it hurt.
I call him back- "oh- actually- yeah I used ______ (not her cream)"- straight up lie. At this point I dont' want this to get any worse so I take her to emergency. Where they decide not to epi just yet- but gave her steroids and kept her there for observation.
He told me it's probably just a sunburn- she was out all weekend and he forgot sunscreen and a hat. Who the fuck forgets to put sunscreen or a hat on a 5 year old and stays out all day??? Yes- she's sunburned, but this ISN'T a sunburn.
The attending doctor said it's not topical- this is something she ate. I am 1000% sure ex is lying about what she ate. He said he prepared her food- 5 year old said her grandmother fed her (grandma is really really old).
I am fucking LIVID at this point but just held it in.
I make an urgent session wit hteh co-parent therapist. But I don't know what else to do. I want start proceedings to suspend his overnights temporarily until this gets sorted.
1. He dropped her to school DURING a reaction. She said she was itching in the morning and the school confirmed she arrived like that. He told them to give her ice to put on her skin (you never put ice on her eczema. You wash with cold water and apply prescription steroid ointment).
2. He straight up lies about the shit he feeds her, who's doing it, what is being used on her skin.
I'm at a loss.
Any suggestions are welcome.
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