Ok - so many questions.
After many years and two children, plus some very escalated arguing, my wife has decided she needs to move out. She has rented a house we cannot afford, behind my back, and is now insisting on moving the children there with her part of the time. She said she needed the space in order to work on the relationship through therapy, but I don't think that's really the goal, nor do I feel it's really realistic at this point.
I've stated that the children should not be ripped from their home in a state of uncertainty where questions would abound about why their parents no longer love each other, when we would love each other again, when they could go back to their home, when their parents would move back together again, etc, further that if things WERE reconciled, it would always be a source of anxiety for them - wondering if their parents were going to move apart again. She disagrees and insists I am wrong because of articles stating separations can be helpful (not involving children).
She showed me a child custody agreement when she first wanted to do this but I didn't feel comfortable signing this without input of lawyer and/or therapist - both of which have proved impossible to get answers from asap. We have a huge amount of debt incurred due to some previous health issues, etc.
She has asked me again about taking the kids repeating there is no reason they can't go to this place she rented and now getting her friend in on the action by saying they are going to do a "sleepover" there with the kids. I'm at a loss and not sure what steps to take next.
After many years and two children, plus some very escalated arguing, my wife has decided she needs to move out. She has rented a house we cannot afford, behind my back, and is now insisting on moving the children there with her part of the time. She said she needed the space in order to work on the relationship through therapy, but I don't think that's really the goal, nor do I feel it's really realistic at this point.
I've stated that the children should not be ripped from their home in a state of uncertainty where questions would abound about why their parents no longer love each other, when we would love each other again, when they could go back to their home, when their parents would move back together again, etc, further that if things WERE reconciled, it would always be a source of anxiety for them - wondering if their parents were going to move apart again. She disagrees and insists I am wrong because of articles stating separations can be helpful (not involving children).
She showed me a child custody agreement when she first wanted to do this but I didn't feel comfortable signing this without input of lawyer and/or therapist - both of which have proved impossible to get answers from asap. We have a huge amount of debt incurred due to some previous health issues, etc.
She has asked me again about taking the kids repeating there is no reason they can't go to this place she rented and now getting her friend in on the action by saying they are going to do a "sleepover" there with the kids. I'm at a loss and not sure what steps to take next.
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