Has the OP considered that he may not be able to keep the home? Even if he keeps it and then gets child support and some spousal support, if that's the only income he has coming in, the house may not be affordable (which will only exacerbate anxiety). If I were him, I would start getting the house assessed for sale.
It's also important whether the OP has been determined to be unable to work by a medical professional. If there is a doctor who can say "Mr xxx suffers from condition abc and is therefore not able to re-enter the workforce full time", the case for spousal support becomes clearer. "Anxiety" could mean many things.
I think it is reasonable to seek short-term SS in order to retrain, with a clear plan for gaining skills in a marketable job which is doable given the OP's medical issues, and a defined end date for SS. This could be sold to the ex as paying a little in the short-term to avoid paying a lot more in the long-term, if the OP is completely unable to work because of lack of skills and/or medical condition.
It's also important whether the OP has been determined to be unable to work by a medical professional. If there is a doctor who can say "Mr xxx suffers from condition abc and is therefore not able to re-enter the workforce full time", the case for spousal support becomes clearer. "Anxiety" could mean many things.
I think it is reasonable to seek short-term SS in order to retrain, with a clear plan for gaining skills in a marketable job which is doable given the OP's medical issues, and a defined end date for SS. This could be sold to the ex as paying a little in the short-term to avoid paying a lot more in the long-term, if the OP is completely unable to work because of lack of skills and/or medical condition.
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