I have been in a common law relationshop for 6 years now. This months is my beginning of 7 th year.
My issue is, I think I am in a love hate relationship but still not sure if I still want in or out. He hit me at least once a year but the brutal one that I can remember is 5 years back and last night. I also had 2 times that I can remember he push me when I was pregnant and choke me when we were still dating. I know this make me sounds so stupid. I mean if I am normal why I am still with him. I, myself don’t even know.
5 years ago, we had priest come into my parents' house to counsel us. After that until last night, he only hit me out of jokes (like eg, we were arguing about TV channel then he hit me – 1 hit only).
Well, what past is past although I seem to cannot get it out of my mind.
Last night we were arguing about how he doesn’t want to work and he asked me to pay for monthly expenses. I refused then the argument escalated. When I was about to leave the room, he started to hit me then I fell to a picture frame and broke the glass. Then he started to hit me more. I cried then he said (in another language but I’ll translate) “I only hit you a few and you cried, what a weenie). My left arm sore and I can see bruises coming on arms and back. It bothers me how he doesn’t apologize for treating me like a piece of meat. I was worry and do not know what to do. I took picture right away of the redness which now has developed into bruises.
Have any of you ever experience this? I wonder what would happen if I report it to the cops? What would happen then?
I am thinking of going to family doctor tomorrow for the arm sores and my back. Should I tell I was hit by common law or just say I fell? What happen if I tell these bruises and sores are from common law, what the doctor would do?
In this kind of situation, since the condo is under both names, what happen if the cops tell us to separate, where would I live? What about child custody? Will it be 50-50? I was hoping to get full custody and he gets access with supervision because his family often teaches her to disrespect me. They speak another language that I don’t know of and a couple years back my child starting calling me in their language word that means whore but I didn’t know. I really don’t like my kid to be with his mother without 3 rd party supervision.
My issue is, I think I am in a love hate relationship but still not sure if I still want in or out. He hit me at least once a year but the brutal one that I can remember is 5 years back and last night. I also had 2 times that I can remember he push me when I was pregnant and choke me when we were still dating. I know this make me sounds so stupid. I mean if I am normal why I am still with him. I, myself don’t even know.
5 years ago, we had priest come into my parents' house to counsel us. After that until last night, he only hit me out of jokes (like eg, we were arguing about TV channel then he hit me – 1 hit only).
Well, what past is past although I seem to cannot get it out of my mind.
Last night we were arguing about how he doesn’t want to work and he asked me to pay for monthly expenses. I refused then the argument escalated. When I was about to leave the room, he started to hit me then I fell to a picture frame and broke the glass. Then he started to hit me more. I cried then he said (in another language but I’ll translate) “I only hit you a few and you cried, what a weenie). My left arm sore and I can see bruises coming on arms and back. It bothers me how he doesn’t apologize for treating me like a piece of meat. I was worry and do not know what to do. I took picture right away of the redness which now has developed into bruises.
Have any of you ever experience this? I wonder what would happen if I report it to the cops? What would happen then?
I am thinking of going to family doctor tomorrow for the arm sores and my back. Should I tell I was hit by common law or just say I fell? What happen if I tell these bruises and sores are from common law, what the doctor would do?
In this kind of situation, since the condo is under both names, what happen if the cops tell us to separate, where would I live? What about child custody? Will it be 50-50? I was hoping to get full custody and he gets access with supervision because his family often teaches her to disrespect me. They speak another language that I don’t know of and a couple years back my child starting calling me in their language word that means whore but I didn’t know. I really don’t like my kid to be with his mother without 3 rd party supervision.
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