Well folks. As most of you likely already know, my 1st case conference was an absolute disaster. Now I seek your knowledgeable advice on what to do, with my next case conference fast approaching in April. Long story short, I commenced a process back in October, filing a motion to terminate CS under the advice of duty counsel from FLIC. The outcome of the 1st CC back in January, heard by A. W. J. Sullivan was my CS got increased from $610 to $738. My ex-bitch decided to put me through FRO since she implied that there were "problems" as she puts it. The temporary variation to the original SA is the aforementioned CS increase along with stipulation that I submit my T4 for the next CC (which I just received this week), and the we are to exchange financial information every year (barring no other subsequent variations until then).
Here is the background to my situation. My son (whom I haven't had contact with since 2007 for reasons I can't fathom to this day) will be turning 20 this July. For in-depth details, please read the first few posts of this thread to get a better picture:
http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/f...-paying-20320/
Now, to add to this, this is the financial situation. My last year's income was about $81,924. My partner's income has been sporadic, as she is just starting out into a similar profession to mine. She starts her new job this Wednesday. We have three (her) children living with us, ages D15, S17 and D18. Her oldest is presently working P/T for a grocery store while attending the very same learning institution as my son, to increase the marks on three of her already completed courses to University acceptance level. So, she already has her HS diploma completed. My son does NOT. My ex-bitch's income is $17,448 (she's been on ODSP since we parted ways in the early 2000's).
During the first CC, the aforementioned judge didn't seem to have a problem being convinced by the ex-bitch that our son should still be considered a "child of marriage", based upon his present schooling arrangement. She didn't even submit any documents (to my knowledge) that our son has any disability of any sort, that would explain why can't complete his HS in a more expeditious manner (at 1 credit per year???). The judge had a smile on his face when commenting on the fact that I have a "healthy" income.
Therefore, my questions are, what do I do for the next CC? My ex-bitch is obviously extremely resistant to the idea of having CS terminated at any point in time for whatever reason. Although my income is "healthy", it's far from infinite that I would have the means to lawyer up. I may just have to adjourn the next CC until I can somehow scrape up the funds to retain one to attend the next CC. My problem is I "froze". I have difficulty speaking in front of an audience. I was more fixated on ensuring proper etiquette while my ex-bitch kept interrupting anything I had to say to the judge. The judge didn't seem to be keen to my suggestion that our son should be working at his age to contribute to his own support. Should I be much more aggressive next time? Should I bluntly come out and say to the judge that this useless excuse for a human being (ex-bitch) is simply using our son as a means to collect money off of me for an indefinite period of time, instead of genuinely being concerned for his "best interests"? His present arrangement is that he is scheduled to attend the learning institution for a total of SIX hours per week for three courses. Now that semester 2 is already well under way, I wouldn't be surprised if he has only completed ONE of those three courses, if even that!!!
In in nutshell, the ex-bitch just wants to "keep the money flowing in" indefinitely as I see it. There HAS TO be an end to this. My son, I honestly don't foresee having any meaningful, genuine contact with him, since I'm sure he is heavily influenced by his mother by now. Up to what point will the courts allow, or encourage this to continue? Will my present living arrangements influence to court's position (the fact that I have three children living with us, for whom we receive no CS for)? Thank you all.
Here is the background to my situation. My son (whom I haven't had contact with since 2007 for reasons I can't fathom to this day) will be turning 20 this July. For in-depth details, please read the first few posts of this thread to get a better picture:
http://www.ottawadivorce.com/forum/f...-paying-20320/
Now, to add to this, this is the financial situation. My last year's income was about $81,924. My partner's income has been sporadic, as she is just starting out into a similar profession to mine. She starts her new job this Wednesday. We have three (her) children living with us, ages D15, S17 and D18. Her oldest is presently working P/T for a grocery store while attending the very same learning institution as my son, to increase the marks on three of her already completed courses to University acceptance level. So, she already has her HS diploma completed. My son does NOT. My ex-bitch's income is $17,448 (she's been on ODSP since we parted ways in the early 2000's).
During the first CC, the aforementioned judge didn't seem to have a problem being convinced by the ex-bitch that our son should still be considered a "child of marriage", based upon his present schooling arrangement. She didn't even submit any documents (to my knowledge) that our son has any disability of any sort, that would explain why can't complete his HS in a more expeditious manner (at 1 credit per year???). The judge had a smile on his face when commenting on the fact that I have a "healthy" income.
Therefore, my questions are, what do I do for the next CC? My ex-bitch is obviously extremely resistant to the idea of having CS terminated at any point in time for whatever reason. Although my income is "healthy", it's far from infinite that I would have the means to lawyer up. I may just have to adjourn the next CC until I can somehow scrape up the funds to retain one to attend the next CC. My problem is I "froze". I have difficulty speaking in front of an audience. I was more fixated on ensuring proper etiquette while my ex-bitch kept interrupting anything I had to say to the judge. The judge didn't seem to be keen to my suggestion that our son should be working at his age to contribute to his own support. Should I be much more aggressive next time? Should I bluntly come out and say to the judge that this useless excuse for a human being (ex-bitch) is simply using our son as a means to collect money off of me for an indefinite period of time, instead of genuinely being concerned for his "best interests"? His present arrangement is that he is scheduled to attend the learning institution for a total of SIX hours per week for three courses. Now that semester 2 is already well under way, I wouldn't be surprised if he has only completed ONE of those three courses, if even that!!!
In in nutshell, the ex-bitch just wants to "keep the money flowing in" indefinitely as I see it. There HAS TO be an end to this. My son, I honestly don't foresee having any meaningful, genuine contact with him, since I'm sure he is heavily influenced by his mother by now. Up to what point will the courts allow, or encourage this to continue? Will my present living arrangements influence to court's position (the fact that I have three children living with us, for whom we receive no CS for)? Thank you all.
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