I have yet to find anyone who has been through what I have. It was suggested to me to try and find anyone in this forum who has been through same. I was a stay at home parent who sacrificed my career to be at home. 3 years after this sacrifice separation happened. A judged forced a 50-50 arrangement on us after a mediator specifically told my ex and I that in these situations it is both the legal and social norm for children to live primarily with their stay at home parent. The judge ignored this norm. Despite being at home I made more money than my ex, significantly more. Although the law states that money should not impact custody decisions it appears it has. Those support tables bankrupted me, we lost the house, I even lost my 3 kids for over a year because I had to move into my parents basement. I had to take leave from work. I was paying for my ex to put my kids in daycare while I was home. All three kids didn't want this. A Judge decided to not listen to my kids who were all expressing the natural desire to not go to daycare, later to not be left home alone with the 12 year old in charge, to be with their primary parent who was always around. Eventually my two oldest rebelled, and my ex sent them to me. I haven't seen my youngest for years. My two oldest having seen their sibling for years.
Are there any stay at home parents who have been through this? Losing everything. Suffering alienation. Not seeing their kids. Not having their kids heard.
In any case its been going on for years and I haven't met anyone else in my situation. Any other stay at home parents, who sacrificed their careers, been bankrupted and alienated from their children, and forced to pay their ex to put kids in care, all the while the childrens views are ignored?
I have been to doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors, spoke with social workers, ... no one seems to know anyone who's had this happen.
Are there any stay at home parents who have been through this? Losing everything. Suffering alienation. Not seeing their kids. Not having their kids heard.
In any case its been going on for years and I haven't met anyone else in my situation. Any other stay at home parents, who sacrificed their careers, been bankrupted and alienated from their children, and forced to pay their ex to put kids in care, all the while the childrens views are ignored?
I have been to doctors, psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors, spoke with social workers, ... no one seems to know anyone who's had this happen.
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