In reading all this I have a few questions. I have noticed this entire thread is about MONEY, again another female just wanting the bottom dollar line. How have you guys worked out visitations for your STBX? I assume that since he, according to your own words, raised these kids as his own and supported them that they will continue to see him and he will get generous and liberal visitations with them. If he was abusive to one child(only accused not convicted yet?) I also assume that the courts would order supervised visits until they feel it is not needed. Or is this ONLY about the money? I have not read once where you talked about how hard the kids are taking their parents breaking up, missing him etc.
Like a few others I am totally confused on why the bio dad isnt paying anything. Even if you have 50/50 living some money is handed over one way UNLESS you make exactly the same wage. And you stated you dont. As far as your STBX being abussive, controlling etc....IMO you let him so its just as much your fault. He wouldnt let you buy a car, how old are you? You cant make decisions on your own or make purcases on your own? GIVE ME A BREAK! You stayed. Because you didnt have the guts to leave you are now making him pay in the only way that benefits you MONEY! There are so many avenues an abused person has to help them get out! You should have used it.
FLAME away people...I am sick & tired of victims!
Like a few others I am totally confused on why the bio dad isnt paying anything. Even if you have 50/50 living some money is handed over one way UNLESS you make exactly the same wage. And you stated you dont. As far as your STBX being abussive, controlling etc....IMO you let him so its just as much your fault. He wouldnt let you buy a car, how old are you? You cant make decisions on your own or make purcases on your own? GIVE ME A BREAK! You stayed. Because you didnt have the guts to leave you are now making him pay in the only way that benefits you MONEY! There are so many avenues an abused person has to help them get out! You should have used it.
FLAME away people...I am sick & tired of victims!
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