Hi,
I am new to this forum and quite frankly am releived such a forum exists.
I am on the cusp of separating with my wife of 19 years. We have 2 children ages 14 and 12. Nearly two years ago, I was relocated to Ottawa by my employer....the whole family came with me. Things between my wife and I were bad before moving and have become much worse. My wife suffers from bulimia and refuses to go for help. I have had enough and will separate as it is affecting her psychologically, even though she refuses to admit it. In the midst of all this, I have also found a new job that would provide me relocation funds and would happen to put me back to where we came from 2 years ago.
If I understand the custody terms properly, we will be in a split custody situation as my daughter (14) will not live with my wife and my son (12) will likely be in a shared custody environment.
If I separate, my wife will also move back to our origianl city as all of her family are there.
So....should I separate before accepting the new job, thus keeping the relo monies for my own purposes or make the move happen, then separate as we are getting set up in our new homes.
Thanks,
Tim
I am new to this forum and quite frankly am releived such a forum exists.
I am on the cusp of separating with my wife of 19 years. We have 2 children ages 14 and 12. Nearly two years ago, I was relocated to Ottawa by my employer....the whole family came with me. Things between my wife and I were bad before moving and have become much worse. My wife suffers from bulimia and refuses to go for help. I have had enough and will separate as it is affecting her psychologically, even though she refuses to admit it. In the midst of all this, I have also found a new job that would provide me relocation funds and would happen to put me back to where we came from 2 years ago.
If I understand the custody terms properly, we will be in a split custody situation as my daughter (14) will not live with my wife and my son (12) will likely be in a shared custody environment.
If I separate, my wife will also move back to our origianl city as all of her family are there.
So....should I separate before accepting the new job, thus keeping the relo monies for my own purposes or make the move happen, then separate as we are getting set up in our new homes.
Thanks,
Tim
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