Separated since May. We have two school-aged children.
Mr. lives with his girlfriend, 40 minutes (highway) from our neighbourhood.
He has not expressed the desire for child custody (short term, that is). Has been putting it off ("when things are better", "when I don't live as far").
Pays no child support.
Has taken massive amounts of money from the joint bank account. Says it's "(his) money too". (I earn 2X what he does but I pay the bills and the mortgage).
Has refused to negotiate arrangements with the Hydro bill (under his name), and electricity has been cutoff in September. I ended up paying the $1500 bill that he didn't want to pay before, when we still lived together.
He has been, in the last two weeks, sending emails (he changes his mind) with various demands (demands vary depending on which day we are).
When I asked for child support, he suddenly changed his mind and asked for shared custody + child support, stating that starting Oct. 1st, I was to accept shared custody and I was to pay him C.S. immediately so that he can at least buy furniture.
So... I went to see a lawyer and launched an emergency procedure (they would visit him 1 weekend every two weeks), stating among other things that it is not advisable to have the kids travel on the highway, in traffic, morning and night (estimated time of travel: 2 hours every day). My lawyer added that we have a son who is seen by a pedopsychiatrist for anxiety issues, and that the kids need stability at the moment.
The problem is that his intent is to go get the kids Friday after school (at the same time he asked me if they could walk to my house at night, because he's not sure he can make it in time to pick them up after school - that would mean leaving them alone in the house and I DO NOT want this). My lawyer strongly advised me to go to school and pick them up myself on Friday night. I will, but... if he's there... what do I do?... I don't want to get into a fight in public or in front of our kids... I would be fine with them spending the weekend with him (even though we have a family party on Saturday night), but not the whole week... To me, it's not clear WHO has the rights, once a procedure is launched (without him necessarily having received the paperwork). Thoughts???
Mr. lives with his girlfriend, 40 minutes (highway) from our neighbourhood.
He has not expressed the desire for child custody (short term, that is). Has been putting it off ("when things are better", "when I don't live as far").
Pays no child support.
Has taken massive amounts of money from the joint bank account. Says it's "(his) money too". (I earn 2X what he does but I pay the bills and the mortgage).
Has refused to negotiate arrangements with the Hydro bill (under his name), and electricity has been cutoff in September. I ended up paying the $1500 bill that he didn't want to pay before, when we still lived together.
He has been, in the last two weeks, sending emails (he changes his mind) with various demands (demands vary depending on which day we are).
When I asked for child support, he suddenly changed his mind and asked for shared custody + child support, stating that starting Oct. 1st, I was to accept shared custody and I was to pay him C.S. immediately so that he can at least buy furniture.
So... I went to see a lawyer and launched an emergency procedure (they would visit him 1 weekend every two weeks), stating among other things that it is not advisable to have the kids travel on the highway, in traffic, morning and night (estimated time of travel: 2 hours every day). My lawyer added that we have a son who is seen by a pedopsychiatrist for anxiety issues, and that the kids need stability at the moment.
The problem is that his intent is to go get the kids Friday after school (at the same time he asked me if they could walk to my house at night, because he's not sure he can make it in time to pick them up after school - that would mean leaving them alone in the house and I DO NOT want this). My lawyer strongly advised me to go to school and pick them up myself on Friday night. I will, but... if he's there... what do I do?... I don't want to get into a fight in public or in front of our kids... I would be fine with them spending the weekend with him (even though we have a family party on Saturday night), but not the whole week... To me, it's not clear WHO has the rights, once a procedure is launched (without him necessarily having received the paperwork). Thoughts???
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