I am engaged to an amazing man... he is working himself to the bone to provide for our family and that of his child support & alimony...
when the seperation happened.. he was blindsided.. she said they needed to seperate a bit and do some counselling, they had done this before, and he'd moved back in and things had carried one.. this time.. after 6 months.. she filed for divorce and claimed he abandoned them and so in turn has possession of everything within the house.. which she kept.
they had a million dollar home... she never worked a day in their 7 year marriage, it was all off his sweat... by the end of it all he walked away with $1600.00 and nothing else... he has since been paying child support and alimony.
since the divorce she has been through a few courses but barely has worked and continues to be in and out of training for careers but never actually working for any length of time. She has lied on her application for her mortgage putting his income / business and lives in a large $600,000.00 home with the 2 kids while we rent a small townhome. We live within our means and she lives in abundance and we are not seeing how she is doing this.
When she took him back to court last year to adjust the supports, of course she wanted more. She already gets $1000 child support and $1500 alimony monthly, she brought in a letter from the bank claiming they were going to take the house due to missed mortgage payments. She claimed she would have to sell off her car that HE paid off, basically, when the divorce happened and she allocated funds and paid it off herself from their joint account. It has been 9 months since the hearing and she still drives the same car, and lives in her house. She has again threatened to take him back to court for want of more money.
My fiancee is 51, and suffers bad arthritis... he kills himself working and does the best he can do for his children and responsibilities. He gets them every other weekend, but had not seen his son for 5 months, and his ex had not helped the situation with her nastiness and lies...
How do we get copies of her financials? He had to send her copies of his tax return. How do we get proof of her lies and fraud with regards to her mortgage issues? That she hasnt sold her car... that she obviously has more of an income than she states. She has stated it takes $12,000.00 a month for her to cover her expenses.. which includes mortgage, etc... yet isnt working a fulltime job anywhere? We are dumbfounded how she is making it at all if these figures are true. And how can she think having a cost that high of a single mom with 2 kids and no real job is ok at all? Talk about stress...
The divorce happened due to her alcoholism, her infidelity and his working 16hr days to provide for the family everything they could ever want.
He got burned by her.. burned by his lawyer.. and burned over and over by the courts.
I am so lost as to what road to take next to help him.. for him to help himself... This alimony has to stop... she's just playing the system. Her mother cares for the children when they arent in school so she has the ability to work any hours necessary...
please... i ask that anyone be able to offer me some advice.. point me in a direction...
How can we legally gain access to her income and expenditures.. she's lying and working the system like an expert...
thanks everyone for listening ^^
when the seperation happened.. he was blindsided.. she said they needed to seperate a bit and do some counselling, they had done this before, and he'd moved back in and things had carried one.. this time.. after 6 months.. she filed for divorce and claimed he abandoned them and so in turn has possession of everything within the house.. which she kept.
they had a million dollar home... she never worked a day in their 7 year marriage, it was all off his sweat... by the end of it all he walked away with $1600.00 and nothing else... he has since been paying child support and alimony.
since the divorce she has been through a few courses but barely has worked and continues to be in and out of training for careers but never actually working for any length of time. She has lied on her application for her mortgage putting his income / business and lives in a large $600,000.00 home with the 2 kids while we rent a small townhome. We live within our means and she lives in abundance and we are not seeing how she is doing this.
When she took him back to court last year to adjust the supports, of course she wanted more. She already gets $1000 child support and $1500 alimony monthly, she brought in a letter from the bank claiming they were going to take the house due to missed mortgage payments. She claimed she would have to sell off her car that HE paid off, basically, when the divorce happened and she allocated funds and paid it off herself from their joint account. It has been 9 months since the hearing and she still drives the same car, and lives in her house. She has again threatened to take him back to court for want of more money.
My fiancee is 51, and suffers bad arthritis... he kills himself working and does the best he can do for his children and responsibilities. He gets them every other weekend, but had not seen his son for 5 months, and his ex had not helped the situation with her nastiness and lies...
How do we get copies of her financials? He had to send her copies of his tax return. How do we get proof of her lies and fraud with regards to her mortgage issues? That she hasnt sold her car... that she obviously has more of an income than she states. She has stated it takes $12,000.00 a month for her to cover her expenses.. which includes mortgage, etc... yet isnt working a fulltime job anywhere? We are dumbfounded how she is making it at all if these figures are true. And how can she think having a cost that high of a single mom with 2 kids and no real job is ok at all? Talk about stress...
The divorce happened due to her alcoholism, her infidelity and his working 16hr days to provide for the family everything they could ever want.
He got burned by her.. burned by his lawyer.. and burned over and over by the courts.
I am so lost as to what road to take next to help him.. for him to help himself... This alimony has to stop... she's just playing the system. Her mother cares for the children when they arent in school so she has the ability to work any hours necessary...
please... i ask that anyone be able to offer me some advice.. point me in a direction...
How can we legally gain access to her income and expenditures.. she's lying and working the system like an expert...
thanks everyone for listening ^^
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