Hi,
I attended a case conference yesterday to deal with the matter of post secondary education expenses. I have a daughter that has started attending University for the first time this past September. As the University is 2 hours from home, she is living in residence. I had proposed to my ex that during the months she is at school, I would only pay her directly for the 1 younger daughter still at home. I would take the amount that made up the difference and give it to my older daughter, plus I would contribute extra to help with tuition and living expenses.
The Judge didn't agree with my position. He stated that since my daughter would still be coming home every once in a while, plus Christmas break, Spring break and Summer, that my ex would still have to maintain her room. Therefore, I still need to give the full amount of child support plus contribute my fair share to the University expenses. That amount is yet to be determined as my ex did not provide any receipts. The Judge said that without receipts, he would not take anyone's word for anything.
Another part of this story is the amount that my daughter would have to contribute towards her own education. It seems that as a child of divorce, the children have it seems, at least under what I heard yesterday, that they don't need to pay for anything. They have an entitlement. If she gets a job and earn a little money, that is for her to enjoy herself with. As part of our separation agreement, my daughter was to try to get grants, loans, scholarships, etc. She did apply for anything because my ex told her that she didn't need to. That her education was all covered.
All-in-all, after the conference, I felt like I was getting shafted in this whole ordeal. Don't get me wrong, I love my daughters and I do want them to be successful in life. My biggest issue is that I already pay through the nose for child support and now I have to pay even more. I am not a rich person. I don't come from money nor do I have much left after paying my own expenses. Where does it end?
Have any of you on this forum ever encountered this issue? How did you handle it? Any advise to keep me from going broke in the process?
Thanks!
I attended a case conference yesterday to deal with the matter of post secondary education expenses. I have a daughter that has started attending University for the first time this past September. As the University is 2 hours from home, she is living in residence. I had proposed to my ex that during the months she is at school, I would only pay her directly for the 1 younger daughter still at home. I would take the amount that made up the difference and give it to my older daughter, plus I would contribute extra to help with tuition and living expenses.
The Judge didn't agree with my position. He stated that since my daughter would still be coming home every once in a while, plus Christmas break, Spring break and Summer, that my ex would still have to maintain her room. Therefore, I still need to give the full amount of child support plus contribute my fair share to the University expenses. That amount is yet to be determined as my ex did not provide any receipts. The Judge said that without receipts, he would not take anyone's word for anything.
Another part of this story is the amount that my daughter would have to contribute towards her own education. It seems that as a child of divorce, the children have it seems, at least under what I heard yesterday, that they don't need to pay for anything. They have an entitlement. If she gets a job and earn a little money, that is for her to enjoy herself with. As part of our separation agreement, my daughter was to try to get grants, loans, scholarships, etc. She did apply for anything because my ex told her that she didn't need to. That her education was all covered.
All-in-all, after the conference, I felt like I was getting shafted in this whole ordeal. Don't get me wrong, I love my daughters and I do want them to be successful in life. My biggest issue is that I already pay through the nose for child support and now I have to pay even more. I am not a rich person. I don't come from money nor do I have much left after paying my own expenses. Where does it end?
Have any of you on this forum ever encountered this issue? How did you handle it? Any advise to keep me from going broke in the process?
Thanks!
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