My husband pays child support for his 20-year-old daughter, who lives with her mother and is starting her 3rd year university in September. His daughter has a good summer job in the government. She spends at least 80% of her time at her boyfriends (all year round) and he also lives with his parents. She even gives his parents money to contribute for food, doing her laundry...etc. I find this not fair that my husband gives his ex wife money for a daughter that's never there. I think it would be better to give the money directly to his daughter for her schooling. (His other daughter who is 16 and he pays support for her as well has left home back in May and is living with a friend.) I find the Mom has a real good thing going here collecting child support for two children that are not even living with her!!
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This is a very common complaint to payers of CS. Why are they still paying CS for children over 18. And why, to the other parent, instead of to the child. The family law system in Canada is completely insane. To ask why is like asking why there is no peace in the middle east. It will just hurt your head.
The only legal thing I think you can do is to file a motion to the court about a material change stating the daughter does not live their anymore. Or something like that. Perhaps LV or Lindsay would can clarify. This question comes up a lot, BTW. Perhaps search this forum or the web site.
An interesting sidebar is that one of the changes that Jay Hill, MP, is considering is that CS stops at 18. This should help achieve a level of predictablility in CS and end this madness.
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Step mama,
what is the the 18 year old daughters position on the matter? Have you spoken to her? Have you offered to pay her the support directly? If she agreed, you bring forth a motion to vary and have the 18 year old daughter depose her own affidavit stating the facts and where she lives etc to support the motion.
The courts may grant the order.
lv
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Well, as in most cases, the relationship between my husband, his daughter and ex wife is very difficult and complex. She didn't even realize that her Dad was still paying support for her until a few months ago. We try not to discuss money issues with the children but one day she was talking about how her Mom is struggling and has to pay for everything. My husband finally set her straight and explained that he pays CS for her. Her Mom has her so brain washed into thinking her Dad is no good. She defends her Mom on everything and she feels so sorry for her Mom that is why she doesn't confess to us about living at her boyfriend because she wants her Mom to continue receiving the CS. We found out about her living with her boyfriend (and paying his parents) through his youngest daughter. Plus, we call there at all times and she is never there.
I will definitely keep your advice in mind. I thank you for listening and letting me vent!
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Stop CS at 18
Stopping child suppport at age 18 is long over due, in my opinion. People age 18 and older need to start accepting full responsibility for their own lives. 18 years is more than generous. A person is an adult at age 18, and should be treated as a completely independent person.
I'm all for cutting the purse strings at age 18.
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