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Divorce Support This forum is for discussing the emotional aspects of divorce: stress, anger, betrayal of trust and more.

View Poll Results: What was the main reason for your relationship breakdown?
Financial issues 61 22.85%
Inactive parent 34 12.73%
Different parenting styles 37 13.86%
Clashing personalities 79 29.59%
Addiction (gambling, alcohol, drugs) 54 20.22%
Spousal and/or child abuse 53 19.85%
Other 111 41.57%
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Old 10-29-2010, 09:43 PM
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They could think there`s someone better out there and string you along until they find someone else. And by the time they realize what they had was good, it`s too late
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Yes too late to salvage the marriage, the harm done to the kids, and recover the many tens of thousands of wasted dollars in legal fees.
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Old 10-30-2010, 08:35 AM
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I am a survivor of adultery. I was only the third client my lawyer ever had that proved it and had it on the divorce order!

There are many reasons for adultery - but few excuses! Adultery harms everyone in the marriage, outside of the marriage, and mostly, the kids, who are the biggest victims of any divorce.

Moreover, after my divorce, I would not have a relationship with an adulteress.

I was certainly not a perfect spouse and am not a perfect parent and spouse again, but I would never cheat before at least having the respect for the family unit to separate first.

My two cents.
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I am a survivor of adultery.
I survived jaywalking. Congratulations.
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I survived jaywalking. Congratulations.
See once again you got to insult people. You really are a bully. Congratulations.
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Old 10-30-2010, 02:07 PM
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I survived jaywalking. Congratulations.
dadtotheend:

I can make jokes about adultery also, but I chose not to on a public forum as some people who have been subjected to it are sensitive.

For those who took their marriages seriously, it is a significant issue to get over, specially if she did it with one's boss.
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I think ddte is a little reluctant to join the pity party. Maybe he just doesn't always say things is the most diplomatic way.

No one "survives" adultery. Your ex did not do anything TO you. Your ex did it IN SPITE of you or with absolutely no regard for you or maybe just didn't give a shit about you.

If you married someone who likes to sleep with other people, then you are better of without them - NOT A VICTIM!

And - btw - Kenny, one question .... before the divorce ... was it OK then to have a relationship with and adulteress?
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Infidelity
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Old 11-04-2010, 01:10 AM
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Do tell ? You or her ?
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Old 11-04-2010, 05:58 AM
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her

(sigh)

And now she is trying to take more than the original separation agreement she wrote.

Life is hard sometimes
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