Ihave to say that we are all in emotionally charged situations that involve persons on the other side who can be vindictive, unethical and outright liars. I too have seen posts which can be harsh, but i have to say that the men on here who have offered there assistance to me have been respectful. I only wish that my daughters father had half the character that they have shown in caring for their children...however I beleive that we all need to dial it down a notch and try to be understanding of each other. Also, remember when using a forum you do not have the other mediums needed to understand context nor emotion such as non verbal communication and tone of voice. I hope that we all come through this on the other side with just a few dents and not a total write off.
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Originally posted by canadamama View PostWhat does this even mean? (OK I mean beyond the Cry Me A River reference)
It certainly doesn't address my point at all. Are you saying that it is 'whiny' to ask that unnecessary personal attacks stop being par for the course on this forum? I can't really see any other interpretation... What IS this?
Are you saying that women seeking SS should not EXPECT to find respectful and informative responses on this forum?? That personal attacks are just fine in threads involving SS?
How can you possibly expect to be taken seriously? I don't think anyone can argue at this point, having read this thread, that this is NOT a site that leans heavily towards supporting men and vilifying women. There may be a few women here who toe the party line and therefore avoid attack, but clearly, any woman who comes here seeking information about her SS entitlement (which is a perfectly legitimate line of inquiry in a forum such as this), can expect nothing but nasty comments and attacks on her character.
Get out your binoculars Lugan, cuz you up shit's creek and you need to find your paddle!
Originally posted by Chrysalis68 View PostWow!! Don't you guys think that I am hurting more than enough??
Thank-you to CANADAMAM for understanding and trying to explain to these insensitive people.
I am hurting beyond believe. Maybe you guys should think before throwing out assumptions.
My children and I have been very emotionally abused.
As far as financially, I am the one that supported my husband completely (for 2 years before getting married) with a roof over his head and and everything that a house has to offer without one penny from him so that he could pay for his 30 year old's rent even though he made more money than me (I had 3 kids as well to support)
We bought a house where I was the one that put the huge deposit on it and had of course all the furnishings and appliances etc.
We have been together for a total of 7 years.
DON'T WORRY I AM TOTALLY RETIRED TO EVER BEING WITH ANYONE. I GAVE MY TOTAL HEART AND SOUL.
I just want to be able to survive the next few years. If any of you knew just half the pain that my children and I have endured, you would understand that at the least I need to be able to promise them that they will have a safe home to live in.
News flash! Separation and divorce hurts! Badly! But your hurt doesn't create a SS entitlement. Separate your hurt from the $$ and things will settle up quicker.Last edited by dadtotheend; 04-03-2011, 08:37 AM.
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Originally posted by mummer1962 View PostIhave to say that we are all in emotionally charged situations that involve persons on the other side who can be vindictive, unethical and outright liars. I too have seen posts which can be harsh, but i have to say that the men on here who have offered there assistance to me have been respectful. I only wish that my daughters father had half the character that they have shown in caring for their children...however I beleive that we all need to dial it down a notch and try to be understanding of each other. Also, remember when using a forum you do not have the other mediums needed to understand context nor emotion such as non verbal communication and tone of voice. I hope that we all come through this on the other side with just a few dents and not a total write off.
People who come here are vulnerable, and they come here seeking support and information. If they are men seeking access to their kids, they get it. If they are women seeking spousal support, they just get kicked when they are down, and anyone who points that out gets a stout kick as well.
Seriously, Mummer1962 - read the posts above and tell me I am wrong.
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canadamama, you have been around here for a little more than a month.
There must be well over 100,000 posts on this site. You must be a VERY quick study and a VERY quick reader, because from here it would a lot longer than that to actually come to an informed opinion.
Contrary to your statements above, it is you doing the attacking when you play that sad "the big bad men are beating up the women" card.
It's very convenient to pretend that we are all beating up the women. It's cloaks your own abusiveness quite nicely, n'est ce pas?
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Originally posted by Chrysalis68 View PostWow!! Don't you guys think that I am hurting more than enough??
We're all in the same boat - that's why we're here.
Cheers!
Gary
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Care to tell me HOW I am wrong? I am yet to see a reasoned or carefully thought-out response in this thread. Simply stating that I am wrong is meaningless. I'm NOT wrong, and saying I am doesn't make it so. If you want to assert that I am wrong, go ahead and read what I am actually asking, read through the thread, and find examples of statements that were helpful and respectful, or actually explain how statements like "I see a career pattern here lol", or "good luck in your future divorces" are anything other than mean-spirited and deliberately hurtful attacks.
The OP in this thread didn't ask to be coddled. She WAS asking for "legal advice about separation and divorce" - instead she got attacked.
I never claimed to have read all of the posts on this board - I claimed to have seen a trend. I could go and gather quotes from various threads to illustrate that trend, but this one stands as a perfect example of exactly what I am talking about.
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Oh so your judgement of this forum is based on a sampling of the material here?
Are you sure that your sample was representative of the popluation at large? Do you have even a modest understanding of statistics and sampling?
Or are you projecting?
Quit crying lady. It's not a good look for you.
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OK here's a question then.
IS this forum an appropriate place for women to come seeking information about their entitlement to spousal support?
If yes, could someone please direct me to any thread in which this matter is discussed without her character being attacked? Honestly, I have done a lot of reading here, and I haven't found one yet.
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