Hello everyone,
I just joined this Forum a few days ago. My name is Margaret and I am looking for information, advice, warnings... etc., basically, I want to learn more about Separation and Divorce proceedings. I have been married for almost 22 years (another anniversary coming up on August 28) and we have two boys ages 17 and 15. Our marriage was happy for the first few years, troubles started popping up when our first son was born. Now it is a disaster story... Do not get me wrong, I am not one of those spouses who "hate" the other for everything - no - I still have a lot of "fuzzy" feelings for my husband but feel very much "let down", simply speaking dissapointed with his attitute towards my illness (It is embarrasing, but I wil be hones with everyone, I have a very bad Eating Disorder - Anorexia with bulimic episodes) and with time being increasingly mentally abusive to the point when now he is treating me like a piece of dirt... It really breaks my heart to say this, because it is hearbreaking to see the person I loved and in a way still do, being so disrespectful to me and call me very degrading names. Recently, he has been calling all our friends and tells them a lot of stories (some true some only partly true) about my illness and how it affects my life. Anyway, we both decided to separate, but I am not sure how to start the whole thing. We have a house on which there is only $20 thousand outstanding in mortgage but neither of us could afford to pay the other one off. My husband is taking a Second Career training course so right now he is receiving EI until November. I am on long term disability from private insurance and also receive CPP Disabilty. My job is still open to me but I am not well enough to go back now. I hope to retun to work once we separate and I re-gain my self-esteem. My husband does not want to stay with the kids. He claims that the kids are only his "on paper" because of me. He also is not willing to pay any Child support but I am not concerned about that too much. All I want is to get this done as smoothly and quickly as possible, start healing my heart and re-gain happiness in life (without ANY OTHER partners in my life!!!!). I am looking for advice what should my first steps be? Go to a lawyer (that is expensive, even for a first consult) or just get the forms from the Ontario Court website, fill them out and file them? I will appreaciate any information, advice, anything. (sorry for being so long on my story...)
I just joined this Forum a few days ago. My name is Margaret and I am looking for information, advice, warnings... etc., basically, I want to learn more about Separation and Divorce proceedings. I have been married for almost 22 years (another anniversary coming up on August 28) and we have two boys ages 17 and 15. Our marriage was happy for the first few years, troubles started popping up when our first son was born. Now it is a disaster story... Do not get me wrong, I am not one of those spouses who "hate" the other for everything - no - I still have a lot of "fuzzy" feelings for my husband but feel very much "let down", simply speaking dissapointed with his attitute towards my illness (It is embarrasing, but I wil be hones with everyone, I have a very bad Eating Disorder - Anorexia with bulimic episodes) and with time being increasingly mentally abusive to the point when now he is treating me like a piece of dirt... It really breaks my heart to say this, because it is hearbreaking to see the person I loved and in a way still do, being so disrespectful to me and call me very degrading names. Recently, he has been calling all our friends and tells them a lot of stories (some true some only partly true) about my illness and how it affects my life. Anyway, we both decided to separate, but I am not sure how to start the whole thing. We have a house on which there is only $20 thousand outstanding in mortgage but neither of us could afford to pay the other one off. My husband is taking a Second Career training course so right now he is receiving EI until November. I am on long term disability from private insurance and also receive CPP Disabilty. My job is still open to me but I am not well enough to go back now. I hope to retun to work once we separate and I re-gain my self-esteem. My husband does not want to stay with the kids. He claims that the kids are only his "on paper" because of me. He also is not willing to pay any Child support but I am not concerned about that too much. All I want is to get this done as smoothly and quickly as possible, start healing my heart and re-gain happiness in life (without ANY OTHER partners in my life!!!!). I am looking for advice what should my first steps be? Go to a lawyer (that is expensive, even for a first consult) or just get the forms from the Ontario Court website, fill them out and file them? I will appreaciate any information, advice, anything. (sorry for being so long on my story...)
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