Ok, so I am paying my child support every month but none of the other issues regarding support for my child have been sorted out yet.
I am going to tell my ex tomorrow that I now have benefits for our son, and leave the ball in her court from there on. If she does not use my benefits, then my part is done and I will be able to show proof that I informed her of same, yet she did not make use of them.
However, my ex has been hitting me up for extra cash lately. She want's $20 for this $50 for that. For example, she wanted $25 recently for miscellaneous things for our son. Of course, I feel that those odds and ends are covered by my child support that I pay each month. Recently she told me she needed more money for " various things he needs" and I simply told her to do up a list and let me know. I am more than willing to pay for extra things for our son, without the courts or lawyers intervention, however I am not willing to pay for odds and ends that are covered by my child support payments. I am willing to pay for things that would normally be covered by the secton 7 "extraordinary" expenses...such as swimming lessons or camp fees for the summer. I just got home and she had a message left on my phone saying that she wanted to discuss this with me. I want to call her back but I am unsure how to tell her that what I am willing to pay for and what I feel is already covered by child support.
What kinds of things should I agree to if she asks for money for them? I am not sure what is reasonable and what is not. I can't just keep handing her out cash above and beyond what I pay in child support, for things that are already supposed to be covered with the CS. I can't afford to do that. Also, is it acceptable to just hand her over the money for these things? I do not trust that the money is going to necessarily be spent on swimming lessons and I would prefer to tell her that I will go directly to pay for his lessons or whatever the activity may be.
Any input would be appreciated. Thanks.
GDGM
I am going to tell my ex tomorrow that I now have benefits for our son, and leave the ball in her court from there on. If she does not use my benefits, then my part is done and I will be able to show proof that I informed her of same, yet she did not make use of them.
However, my ex has been hitting me up for extra cash lately. She want's $20 for this $50 for that. For example, she wanted $25 recently for miscellaneous things for our son. Of course, I feel that those odds and ends are covered by my child support that I pay each month. Recently she told me she needed more money for " various things he needs" and I simply told her to do up a list and let me know. I am more than willing to pay for extra things for our son, without the courts or lawyers intervention, however I am not willing to pay for odds and ends that are covered by my child support payments. I am willing to pay for things that would normally be covered by the secton 7 "extraordinary" expenses...such as swimming lessons or camp fees for the summer. I just got home and she had a message left on my phone saying that she wanted to discuss this with me. I want to call her back but I am unsure how to tell her that what I am willing to pay for and what I feel is already covered by child support.
What kinds of things should I agree to if she asks for money for them? I am not sure what is reasonable and what is not. I can't just keep handing her out cash above and beyond what I pay in child support, for things that are already supposed to be covered with the CS. I can't afford to do that. Also, is it acceptable to just hand her over the money for these things? I do not trust that the money is going to necessarily be spent on swimming lessons and I would prefer to tell her that I will go directly to pay for his lessons or whatever the activity may be.
Any input would be appreciated. Thanks.
GDGM
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