Have been reading the posts for some time now and finally decided to get my own story out there - for support, advice, and to clear my head. So here goes.....
My husband immigrated to Canada when our son was 1 yo. We had lived together in his country for about 1 year, so I was completely surprised to find him to be a totally different person in Canada - miserable, controlling, abusive and unhelpful with our son. After almost 18 months, I'd had enough. I had worked very hard at our relationship including buying a house with my pre-marriage savings to get out of my parents home which I thought may be the problem, going to marriage counselling, encouraging him to make freinds in Canada as well as amoung his community here. Things just got progressively worse. Since our separation, he's become increasingly abusive to the point where I have a restraining order, supervised access with our son, and he's been charged with criminal harrasement.
I've been in court 4 times in the last year - spent the remainder of my savings, and fear for my safety and that of my son. My husband has threatened me and has threatened to "tell my son all about me" whatever that means. He's written horrible lies in court documents which always almost send me over the edge.
I have felt so defeated at times, but I just keep trudging along, hoping it will all work out in the end for my son and I. Not sure yet, what that will be.
Glad to have been able to gain some knowledge already from all of you and will be posting specific questions shortly (I've got many)!!!
My husband immigrated to Canada when our son was 1 yo. We had lived together in his country for about 1 year, so I was completely surprised to find him to be a totally different person in Canada - miserable, controlling, abusive and unhelpful with our son. After almost 18 months, I'd had enough. I had worked very hard at our relationship including buying a house with my pre-marriage savings to get out of my parents home which I thought may be the problem, going to marriage counselling, encouraging him to make freinds in Canada as well as amoung his community here. Things just got progressively worse. Since our separation, he's become increasingly abusive to the point where I have a restraining order, supervised access with our son, and he's been charged with criminal harrasement.
I've been in court 4 times in the last year - spent the remainder of my savings, and fear for my safety and that of my son. My husband has threatened me and has threatened to "tell my son all about me" whatever that means. He's written horrible lies in court documents which always almost send me over the edge.
I have felt so defeated at times, but I just keep trudging along, hoping it will all work out in the end for my son and I. Not sure yet, what that will be.
Glad to have been able to gain some knowledge already from all of you and will be posting specific questions shortly (I've got many)!!!
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