Here is my story short ( well sort of )
I have been separated but not legally since June 2002 - We were together common law from December 1993 to January 2002 in the province of Québec, then we got married in February 2002 in New Zealand and came to live in Ontario. So as you see the official marriage lasted only 4 months. For reasons I still can't come to terms I met this man and my life was turned around and I left my husband for him - I left without asking for anything; only that he provides financial security for our 2 children - which he does- Well needless to say that my relationship did not workout, which was inevitable I truly believe that. Both of us have continued with our lives we have a great co-parenting relationship and I consider my ex to be to some extent a good friend. He's in a relationship and so am I - 1 month and a half ago my ex decided that it was time to put closier and proceed with a divorce and arrange a settlement - well that came out of the blue to me; especially the settlement part - he offered to pay me a full lump sum and we would then share the expenses for the children. When he asked that his lawyer prepare the settlement she said that technically he does not owe me anything - (yes for the kids but me nothing) because our marriage was so shortlived. But he wanted to do the right thing and he came up with this agreement - 40K lump sum as spousal support - and $900/per month for child support. I have no idea if this is fair - I can,t afford a lawyer and to make it worse my partner is livid and he's saying that this is not at all fair - and that I should be brave and tell him that I will not sign this agreement and that we will battle this in court - I'm so stressed and the thought of bringing this in front of the courts is killing me - I want to do what's right for me but I also want my partner to be supportive of my decision - Is my ex having me on with this agreement? Is it serving him more than me. To make it worst my ex is a lawyer........ I am extremely discouraged.
"justlookingforpeace"
I have been separated but not legally since June 2002 - We were together common law from December 1993 to January 2002 in the province of Québec, then we got married in February 2002 in New Zealand and came to live in Ontario. So as you see the official marriage lasted only 4 months. For reasons I still can't come to terms I met this man and my life was turned around and I left my husband for him - I left without asking for anything; only that he provides financial security for our 2 children - which he does- Well needless to say that my relationship did not workout, which was inevitable I truly believe that. Both of us have continued with our lives we have a great co-parenting relationship and I consider my ex to be to some extent a good friend. He's in a relationship and so am I - 1 month and a half ago my ex decided that it was time to put closier and proceed with a divorce and arrange a settlement - well that came out of the blue to me; especially the settlement part - he offered to pay me a full lump sum and we would then share the expenses for the children. When he asked that his lawyer prepare the settlement she said that technically he does not owe me anything - (yes for the kids but me nothing) because our marriage was so shortlived. But he wanted to do the right thing and he came up with this agreement - 40K lump sum as spousal support - and $900/per month for child support. I have no idea if this is fair - I can,t afford a lawyer and to make it worse my partner is livid and he's saying that this is not at all fair - and that I should be brave and tell him that I will not sign this agreement and that we will battle this in court - I'm so stressed and the thought of bringing this in front of the courts is killing me - I want to do what's right for me but I also want my partner to be supportive of my decision - Is my ex having me on with this agreement? Is it serving him more than me. To make it worst my ex is a lawyer........ I am extremely discouraged.
"justlookingforpeace"
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