After a very long, drawn out custody battle, which included an investigation with the OCL and a clinical assist, sole custody was awarded to me. He has access EOW and every Wednesday for dinner. He self-represented, so when negotiating the access schedule, it was him, my lawyer and the children's lawyer.
For summer vacation, it really only specifies that the access parent is entitled to three weeks vacation, and his request must be given by a certain date. He gave me his dates by the proper time, and even though he was going against the current order in his request, I allowed it, because I had no reason not to, and thought I should try and be accommodating.
After he chose weeks he wanted, I emailed him with the weeks I wanted to take with my kids. He never emailed back, so I booked a little getaway with my kids. The afternoon before we were to leave, he emailed me back (this was 5 weeks after my vacation request was sent). He said the agreement only specifies that HE gets vacation time, but nowhere does it specify that I have any. He claims that I get a week of uninterrupted time with them every other week from Wednesday to Wednesday and that's when I should be planning my vacation with the kids.
Well, I chose Monday to Thursday for our vacation, because I am tight on money, and it was cheaper than staying over a weekend. I was really upset, because technically, it doesn't say I am entitled to vacation. The kids were so excited about our holiday, and I didn't want to tell them we couldn't go. I emailed him and said he had over a month to respond, and he was choosing the day before on purpose and went with my kids.
I'm going back to court to get my order clarified, but I was wondering...is this norm? Does a sole custodial parent not get specified vacation blocks in the summer, because we have the kids on a day to day basis? Will I never be entitled to more than one week at a time of vacation with them?
For summer vacation, it really only specifies that the access parent is entitled to three weeks vacation, and his request must be given by a certain date. He gave me his dates by the proper time, and even though he was going against the current order in his request, I allowed it, because I had no reason not to, and thought I should try and be accommodating.
After he chose weeks he wanted, I emailed him with the weeks I wanted to take with my kids. He never emailed back, so I booked a little getaway with my kids. The afternoon before we were to leave, he emailed me back (this was 5 weeks after my vacation request was sent). He said the agreement only specifies that HE gets vacation time, but nowhere does it specify that I have any. He claims that I get a week of uninterrupted time with them every other week from Wednesday to Wednesday and that's when I should be planning my vacation with the kids.
Well, I chose Monday to Thursday for our vacation, because I am tight on money, and it was cheaper than staying over a weekend. I was really upset, because technically, it doesn't say I am entitled to vacation. The kids were so excited about our holiday, and I didn't want to tell them we couldn't go. I emailed him and said he had over a month to respond, and he was choosing the day before on purpose and went with my kids.
I'm going back to court to get my order clarified, but I was wondering...is this norm? Does a sole custodial parent not get specified vacation blocks in the summer, because we have the kids on a day to day basis? Will I never be entitled to more than one week at a time of vacation with them?
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