After 2 hours of mediation I now have another final order on the day we had our case conference.
I'll spare everyone the long drawn out details, but in order to do what's best for the kids in the end, I took the 5 digit arrears he owes off the table.
While CS is of course the right of the kids, the time has already passed where he should have been helping raise the children financially and has not done so.
Considering that the 2 oldest children will be living with him effective July 1, and the 2 youngest will remain with me, the kids deserve to be cared for equally; being stubborn and being adamant that the arrears simply must be paid out will only hurt the 2 children that will be living with him.
My advice to parents that fight for money out of 'principal' is to really think about who it affects in the end. The bills were already paid, the kids fed, clothes on their back etc etc, so in the end, who would truly benefit from him spending years just trying to pay off arrears.
I'll spare everyone the long drawn out details, but in order to do what's best for the kids in the end, I took the 5 digit arrears he owes off the table.
While CS is of course the right of the kids, the time has already passed where he should have been helping raise the children financially and has not done so.
Considering that the 2 oldest children will be living with him effective July 1, and the 2 youngest will remain with me, the kids deserve to be cared for equally; being stubborn and being adamant that the arrears simply must be paid out will only hurt the 2 children that will be living with him.
My advice to parents that fight for money out of 'principal' is to really think about who it affects in the end. The bills were already paid, the kids fed, clothes on their back etc etc, so in the end, who would truly benefit from him spending years just trying to pay off arrears.
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