Hi All,
It is sad how divorce brings out the worst in people where people show their true colours,. where we would have never married these people in the first place. I know that in acrimonious situations, you need to pick your battles, or simply opt to take the high road, but it seems to be getting increasingly frustrating. How do people out there handle double-standards?
Just as examples, your ex gives you a hard time saying you feed too much junk food, but every time you pick up your kids they have chocolate bars in their hands? Or your ex gives you grief for buying a new fun video game that your kids are ecstatic about, yet you are aware that the kids spend lots of time playing video games at your ex's place? You get in trouble for bringing your sick kids to the pharmacy for meds, yet its perfectly OK for your ex to do the same thing.... I understand that co-parenting in separate homes means being on same page for some things, such as the time for bed, but my ex is out of control with trying to control.
My ex simply cannot control herself in lecturing me about parenting, her level of trying to control me as a parent is insane. When I do something for the kids, it is bad, but when she does the same thing, it is good/cute. I have bitten my tongue to date, but its getting hard to not point out the level of insanity I face when she chastises me for something, and then she herself admits to the same things herself in the same sentence! The really sad thing is that she chastises me on being a nice and caring parent....For example, she gets upset if I drop off the kids and happened to stop at McDonald's on the drive over for an ice cream cone or milkshake on a hot summer day. It is as though she is upset I bring back the kids with smiles on their faces.
It is sad how divorce brings out the worst in people where people show their true colours,. where we would have never married these people in the first place. I know that in acrimonious situations, you need to pick your battles, or simply opt to take the high road, but it seems to be getting increasingly frustrating. How do people out there handle double-standards?
Just as examples, your ex gives you a hard time saying you feed too much junk food, but every time you pick up your kids they have chocolate bars in their hands? Or your ex gives you grief for buying a new fun video game that your kids are ecstatic about, yet you are aware that the kids spend lots of time playing video games at your ex's place? You get in trouble for bringing your sick kids to the pharmacy for meds, yet its perfectly OK for your ex to do the same thing.... I understand that co-parenting in separate homes means being on same page for some things, such as the time for bed, but my ex is out of control with trying to control.
My ex simply cannot control herself in lecturing me about parenting, her level of trying to control me as a parent is insane. When I do something for the kids, it is bad, but when she does the same thing, it is good/cute. I have bitten my tongue to date, but its getting hard to not point out the level of insanity I face when she chastises me for something, and then she herself admits to the same things herself in the same sentence! The really sad thing is that she chastises me on being a nice and caring parent....For example, she gets upset if I drop off the kids and happened to stop at McDonald's on the drive over for an ice cream cone or milkshake on a hot summer day. It is as though she is upset I bring back the kids with smiles on their faces.
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