i was with my ex for 9 year's we have two two son's 5 and 11. we broke up in 2010
i didn't fight for the kids at first because i wanted them to stay with there mother where i thought they were safe, and at the time i didn't have a place for them to stay with me so instead i took the kid's every 2nd weekend and i paid her child support of 150$ every week.
after a month or two when i would pick up the kids they started to tell me how they were being treated badly and thing's weren't going well. so i spoke to my ex but nothing changed so i started to save all text's i got from her and started to take picture's of the house it was a mess with garbage and rotting food all over the place.
about a year later after begging my ex to clean up her lifestyle with no change she decided to move over an hour and a half away with a new boyfriend who has a huge criminal record and is very jealous and has a angry problem. (she gave me a day and a half notice she was moving) not long after i was no longer allowed to speak to the kids. her boyfriends jealousy started to get in the way of any communication of any kind between myself and my ex. that's when i found a lawyer i'm not rich and i was lucky i found a young lawyer who charged 125$ an hour which was great because i called a few that were charging 300$ an hour.
she had legal aid.
one weekend before she knew i had gotten a lawyer i picked up the kids and my older son was complaining his back hurt when i lifted up his shirt i saw he had a huge red hand print in the middle of his back. so i decided that was it and that i wasn't sending the kids back to her. she called the police but because we didn't have a court order the police could not do anything. within 2 month's i got served to go to court because she filed for a emergancey removel of the kids from me. we went to court and she lost. then i built my case with all the text's picture's and i got some witnesses to sign affidavits saying what they saw over the time the kid's were with her. i had a file over 3 inch's thick. it was one of the most stressful time's of my life.
then the 2nd step temp custody. once my lawyer sent her lawyer the file i had against her, all the proof,text's, pic's. her lawyer strongly urged her to sign an agreement with me. she refused so we went in front of the judge. once again she lost so i won temp custody.
then 3rd step full custody. this step was fairly easy my ex was now willing to sign an agreement where i get full custody and she get's to see the kid's 1 weekend a month and 2 week's over summer. on top of it she is on welfare so she doesn't have to pay child support and i doubt i will ever get any money from her, she is living off the system to pay all her bill's and rent.
during all of this she got pregnant with her new boyfriend.( retarded i know)
so it took 5 month's and cost me 5,000$ in lawyer fee's ( which i know is not very much. plus he was a great lawyer who was very involved in every aspect and took the time to explain everything to me every step of the way)
i worked day and night i read up on all Quebec and Canadian law's and found out everything i could to build my case against her because i know father's have very little right's in Quebec.
now the kid's are safe and are in a stable environment and we can move on with our life's.
i thought i'd share my story to maybe give father's hope that it can be done and not to give up. cause i know how scary it can get.
thank you
i didn't fight for the kids at first because i wanted them to stay with there mother where i thought they were safe, and at the time i didn't have a place for them to stay with me so instead i took the kid's every 2nd weekend and i paid her child support of 150$ every week.
after a month or two when i would pick up the kids they started to tell me how they were being treated badly and thing's weren't going well. so i spoke to my ex but nothing changed so i started to save all text's i got from her and started to take picture's of the house it was a mess with garbage and rotting food all over the place.
about a year later after begging my ex to clean up her lifestyle with no change she decided to move over an hour and a half away with a new boyfriend who has a huge criminal record and is very jealous and has a angry problem. (she gave me a day and a half notice she was moving) not long after i was no longer allowed to speak to the kids. her boyfriends jealousy started to get in the way of any communication of any kind between myself and my ex. that's when i found a lawyer i'm not rich and i was lucky i found a young lawyer who charged 125$ an hour which was great because i called a few that were charging 300$ an hour.
she had legal aid.
one weekend before she knew i had gotten a lawyer i picked up the kids and my older son was complaining his back hurt when i lifted up his shirt i saw he had a huge red hand print in the middle of his back. so i decided that was it and that i wasn't sending the kids back to her. she called the police but because we didn't have a court order the police could not do anything. within 2 month's i got served to go to court because she filed for a emergancey removel of the kids from me. we went to court and she lost. then i built my case with all the text's picture's and i got some witnesses to sign affidavits saying what they saw over the time the kid's were with her. i had a file over 3 inch's thick. it was one of the most stressful time's of my life.
then the 2nd step temp custody. once my lawyer sent her lawyer the file i had against her, all the proof,text's, pic's. her lawyer strongly urged her to sign an agreement with me. she refused so we went in front of the judge. once again she lost so i won temp custody.
then 3rd step full custody. this step was fairly easy my ex was now willing to sign an agreement where i get full custody and she get's to see the kid's 1 weekend a month and 2 week's over summer. on top of it she is on welfare so she doesn't have to pay child support and i doubt i will ever get any money from her, she is living off the system to pay all her bill's and rent.
during all of this she got pregnant with her new boyfriend.( retarded i know)
so it took 5 month's and cost me 5,000$ in lawyer fee's ( which i know is not very much. plus he was a great lawyer who was very involved in every aspect and took the time to explain everything to me every step of the way)
i worked day and night i read up on all Quebec and Canadian law's and found out everything i could to build my case against her because i know father's have very little right's in Quebec.
now the kid's are safe and are in a stable environment and we can move on with our life's.
i thought i'd share my story to maybe give father's hope that it can be done and not to give up. cause i know how scary it can get.
thank you
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