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  • #46
    Originally posted by Aghast View Post
    Advice: 1. Stop referring to your children as "MY children, MY daughter" I know where you are coming from but Judges don't like to hear that. Get into the habit of saying OUR children.


    2. Ignore the communication blockade. Don't let it bother you and two things will happen. A) It will stop bothering your children. You may think you are handling it well with your children but I will bet that your agitation is leaking through to your children's. Even I can feel it. B) Your ex will soon forget about it and communication will be open again.


    This exact scenario happened to me. My ex would restrict communication or I would be on speaker phone and she would be monitoring the conversation. I didn't care. Our kids stopped caring. My ex stopped caring. Now our kids are free to communicate with me at their will and without supervision.


    Take your ex's power over you away.


    Great advise. I hope my ex will get to this point soon as well as he refuses our 10 yro the wifi password when the other 3 kids in the home walk around with it. He does this so my child can’t contact me as well. (I have him my old iPhone for iMessage)

    I have just dropped it an excepted he is unable to contact me. It is what it is. The kids don’t bring it up as much anymore... no contact yet... but I thing in this instance above it will happen again.


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    • #47
      What extra money? The child support I receive? I spend it on my kids. Thanks for checking though!


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      • #48
        Originally posted by youngdad91 View Post
        congrats - what do you do with that extra money?


        Maybe if you read her posts rather than simply commenting you would know that she has 60% time and he pays less than table cs.

        Stop colouring your responses with your disdain for your ex.

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        • #49
          Originally posted by youngdad91 View Post
          Correction - she said she has them for more than 60%. But to your comment: does he pay offset based on difference of their incomes? Is he eligible for child support tax benefits or are those collected solely by Angie ?

          Offset child support payments don't really come into effect unless you share custody, and each parent has the child at least 40% of the time. This doesn't seem to be the situation here. Also, if you mean child tax benefits, that is usually not available to the support payor, or to the parent who doesn't have the child at least 40% of the time, etc.

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          • #50
            Originally posted by youngdad91 View Post
            Exactly my point.

            What is your point? Unless I guess your point, is that your bitter about your own custody arrangement?



            Your comments aren't even relevant to the topic of conversation.

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            • #51
              Originally posted by youngdad91 View Post
              Correction - she said she has them for more than 60%. But to your comment: does he pay offset based on difference of their incomes? Is he eligible for child support tax benefits or are those collected solely by Angie ?


              If you had been following her entire story (not just what you chose in this thread) you would know a cs update was required in accordance with their agreement, he had been paying less than table with eow which she agreed to on the condition it would be reviewed in a set amount of time. He went into arrears at less than table. When she sought the increase in accordance with the agreement he demanded 50/50. They mediated and she increased his time and reduced cs again. He refused 50/50 but took the cs reduction. Which means that he doesn’t want 50/50, he doesn’t want to pay table, he’s never paid table and is in arrears again.

              Not every dad wants 50/50 and some of them don’t want to pay cs either. Don’t let your anger at your ex colour your responses to others.

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              • #52
                Originally posted by youngdad91 View Post
                You got a little defensive there. Come on now, do you really spend exactly $417.89 right to the penny on your kids every month ? Or did your last visit to the nail factory cut a little into that ?
                Sorry Youngdad, Ange cant come to the forum right now, she and I "took" all our child support payments, ditched the kids with our ex's and are at the spa all day, then we are heading to the airport for a mini get away, but dont worry I will have her back before her ex goes over the 40%.

                Were at the Ritz Carlton now if any other Mom's want to join us.

                Gotta run before Ange drinks all the champagne on me. Next 2 bottles are on me cause Ange agreed to less than table support

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                • #53
                  Hey that sounds like fun you guys! I'm expecting my SS (garnished from x) can I join in? We could go to casino and then you guys can really have fun with your CS payments.

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                  • #54
                    Of course you can come Arabian, any support receiver is welcome! Love your idea of Gambling that $$$ away, we just wont feed are kids next week.

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                    • #55
                      Count me in!!!


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                      • #56
                        Kate, I think I spotted some hot guys by the hotel pool. Quick go do your makeup and hair. Maybe we can hook up with them and get them to buy all our drinks tonight? It’s always better when a man is paying our way!


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                        • #57
                          Be right there Ange, just on the phone with my Plastic Surgeon. A boob job, is a Section 7 expense, right? Or is that what spousal support is for? Its just so hard sometimes keeping track of all this money pouring in from the ex.

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                          • #58
                            I’ll join you guys with my oodles of cash Im contributing to my partners money he stole from his ex wife that he’s keeping from his kids. Our lifestyle is so awesome with all the money we have since he pays so little child support and never pays for anything else we can totally afford a spa day while his kids suffer.

                            And youngdad, he doesn’t pay off set because they don’t have offset. He has less than 50% time and pays less than full table even though he should be paying full table. Neither Ange or her ex can claim eligible dependent because of their incomes and marital statuses and even though she submits the net cost of daycare to the ex, he still doesn’t pay his proportionate share and is in arrears for cs.

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                            • #59
                              Of course join us Rockscan and spend all that money your ex has saved!!! What would be really awesome is if Youngdads ex could join us. I am sure out of all of us, she could use the break more than any of us.

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                              • #60
                                Well that was fun, but this thread isn't about child support, nor is it an opportunity to shit on people who receive support for their children so i will politely ask that it stay on track and not devolve into a petty free for all.

                                A couple of reminders to all:

                                1- don't feed the trolls. Especially after midnight.
                                2- everyone has access to the ignore list and i would highly recommend using it.

                                Enjoy your stay, and if you're not, feel free to follow the Exit signs.

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