Ex and I banged together a new court order at the end of September 2019. It is actually still Minutes of Settlement though because he is refusing to agree to them as written by HIS lawyer. That's not my problem. We have been operating as if the Minutes were an actual Order regardless of its official status.
The new terms see our boys with me exclusively during the week and with their dad exclusively on weekends. However, I can choose 4 weekends throughout a year where the boys will be with me.Within a week of signing the Minutes, I sent my chosen weekends to him via my lawyer. He rejected them all, offering the weekend before or after. Letters are flying back and forth due to the Minutes not being an order yet and each time we include the weekends I have chosen. He is very aware that I have chosen this time.
The first weekend I have chosen is this weekend coming (Jan 24-26). When I picked my guys up after school today, they excitedly told me a sledding party has been planned at their dad's next weekend; invitations sent out today. They were able to tell me that it is his weekend because he has not agreed my having them this weekend. I did not ask them any information. This was all from the mouths of babes.
My lawyer has told me to take them out of school early for the weekend and I am leaning strongly on doing so. This sledding party has been put together purely to set both me and the boys up. The man lives an hour away and in all of their almost 11yrs has never allowed friends to come for play dates. I know this is a set up. Both boys are extremely angry with me right now and have pulled away. I am saying nothing other than "this is between your dad and me only", and I am sticking to that.
What would you do? Take them out early and keep them for the weekend? Or let the weekend go and wait for his approval on a weekend?
The new terms see our boys with me exclusively during the week and with their dad exclusively on weekends. However, I can choose 4 weekends throughout a year where the boys will be with me.Within a week of signing the Minutes, I sent my chosen weekends to him via my lawyer. He rejected them all, offering the weekend before or after. Letters are flying back and forth due to the Minutes not being an order yet and each time we include the weekends I have chosen. He is very aware that I have chosen this time.
The first weekend I have chosen is this weekend coming (Jan 24-26). When I picked my guys up after school today, they excitedly told me a sledding party has been planned at their dad's next weekend; invitations sent out today. They were able to tell me that it is his weekend because he has not agreed my having them this weekend. I did not ask them any information. This was all from the mouths of babes.
My lawyer has told me to take them out of school early for the weekend and I am leaning strongly on doing so. This sledding party has been put together purely to set both me and the boys up. The man lives an hour away and in all of their almost 11yrs has never allowed friends to come for play dates. I know this is a set up. Both boys are extremely angry with me right now and have pulled away. I am saying nothing other than "this is between your dad and me only", and I am sticking to that.
What would you do? Take them out early and keep them for the weekend? Or let the weekend go and wait for his approval on a weekend?
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