Hi everyone! I am new to this forum so let me introduce my situation a little. Any advice will be greatly appreciated.
I have a 14 year old daughter with my ex wife. For the past 7 years my daughter and I had on and off relationship. The off part of the relationship was always of my daughter's will (with or without x's influence) and on part was of my effort. However, it got so bad that I have to be very carful what I say because the slightest critic, guidance or simple misunderstanding leads to drama and rejection. I have tried to be the best father I could be + which involved a lot of sucking up to my ex so that she does not use my daughter against me, but I am tired now of being the punching bag
Anyway, here is why I wrote all of the above.... In 2006 my ex took me to court for CS order and full custody (because she was pissed). I paid CS to her personally according to guidelines. So now the payments go through FRO and she got full custody. The court order states that I am to provide her with Letters of Assessment at her request every year by June 1st. She has not asked me for any letters of assessment in the past and I didn't provide them. However, my income has been substantially lower in 2007, 2008, 2009 than in original court order. I have been self employed (trim carpenter) since 2005 and yes there were business related expenses written off but nothing absurd. I did not want to push the lower CS order with my ex cause I knew that will cause a lot of bs and I still hoped that I could have a decent relationship with my daughter. Now that we have another falling out over silly stuff, she requested letters of assessment for the past 3 years and I know she thinks that I make more now cause I have been self employed now for some 6 years. But little does she know that it took some investment over the years etc. Also, It could be really quiet for months and then supper busy. Now here is the kicker: in 2010 I have made more than in the original court order and I KNOW that she will not care that I overpaid for the past 4 years and never complained. She will want more money. There is Baker & Baker website that according to section 17 (I believe) of Federal Guidelines the courts might average the past 3 years to get the fair amount of CS. Does anyone know if its a valid point based on my situation and why I didn't apply for reduction earlier? Also, since the due date for submitting my assessments is June 1 and my ex gave me 30 days to do it 2 weeks ago, my 2010 has not arrived yet. Do I submit to her just 2007/8/9? Can I be taken to court by her for order contempt if I do not provide her with 2010 in time? Also, do I submit (it was a letter from her and not her lawyer)to her copies of assessment or originals? Thanks for all your time to read this.
Sorry for such a long post I just thought that all the details are important.
I have a 14 year old daughter with my ex wife. For the past 7 years my daughter and I had on and off relationship. The off part of the relationship was always of my daughter's will (with or without x's influence) and on part was of my effort. However, it got so bad that I have to be very carful what I say because the slightest critic, guidance or simple misunderstanding leads to drama and rejection. I have tried to be the best father I could be + which involved a lot of sucking up to my ex so that she does not use my daughter against me, but I am tired now of being the punching bag
Anyway, here is why I wrote all of the above.... In 2006 my ex took me to court for CS order and full custody (because she was pissed). I paid CS to her personally according to guidelines. So now the payments go through FRO and she got full custody. The court order states that I am to provide her with Letters of Assessment at her request every year by June 1st. She has not asked me for any letters of assessment in the past and I didn't provide them. However, my income has been substantially lower in 2007, 2008, 2009 than in original court order. I have been self employed (trim carpenter) since 2005 and yes there were business related expenses written off but nothing absurd. I did not want to push the lower CS order with my ex cause I knew that will cause a lot of bs and I still hoped that I could have a decent relationship with my daughter. Now that we have another falling out over silly stuff, she requested letters of assessment for the past 3 years and I know she thinks that I make more now cause I have been self employed now for some 6 years. But little does she know that it took some investment over the years etc. Also, It could be really quiet for months and then supper busy. Now here is the kicker: in 2010 I have made more than in the original court order and I KNOW that she will not care that I overpaid for the past 4 years and never complained. She will want more money. There is Baker & Baker website that according to section 17 (I believe) of Federal Guidelines the courts might average the past 3 years to get the fair amount of CS. Does anyone know if its a valid point based on my situation and why I didn't apply for reduction earlier? Also, since the due date for submitting my assessments is June 1 and my ex gave me 30 days to do it 2 weeks ago, my 2010 has not arrived yet. Do I submit to her just 2007/8/9? Can I be taken to court by her for order contempt if I do not provide her with 2010 in time? Also, do I submit (it was a letter from her and not her lawyer)to her copies of assessment or originals? Thanks for all your time to read this.
Sorry for such a long post I just thought that all the details are important.
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