As far as I was told, the mother was "cured" and despite that I have been trying to get my kids from day one. I did not want the grandparents raising my children, I am plenty capable of that task myself. Oh and how can i talk to them when they won't even answer the phone.
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Originally posted by Zhoozhelitsa View PostBut wait, if he has access, they cannot prevent him from seeing the kids. Isn't it against the law? He didn't mention any paperwork so I'm assuming there are no days/hours set in writing.
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No it means you don't appear to have much insight into one of the worst abuses in family law, where parents are denied access to their children and that in spite of what a separation agreement or a court order says, the consequences for such actions are virtually non-existent.
Your relative inexperience with these matters probably explains your naivite. And it may explain to you why people like myself get so up in arms when it is perpetrated i.e. by the grandparents in this thread!!
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There, Dad, I knew you were capable of communicating without being abrasive and I'm glad you are right now.
Now look at what I've said:
But wait, if he has access, they cannot prevent him from seeing the kids. Isn't it against the law? He didn't mention any paperwork so I'm assuming there are no days/hours set in writing.
I said that it was against the law for the grandparents to block access. And he has no paperwork saying, let's say, that he can only see them on weekends, therefore, he can see them anytime.
This is the point you were making as well, right?
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Originally posted by Zhoozhelitsa View PostThere, Dad, I knew you were capable of communicating without being abrasive and I'm glad you are right now.
Now look at what I've said:
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Originally posted by mama2bee View PostZhoozhelista, maybe if you worded things so they did not come across as a personal attack people would be more apt to want to answer in a non defensive tone.
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still hanging in
Yesterday was my eldest daughters birthday. I wasn't allow to see her or her sister by the family. I submitted my motion today with hopes that it will be heard tomorrow on an urgent basis. If it is not heard tomorrow, it will be three weeks before it is able to come in front of a judge again. I feel that this all could have been avoided with a little civility. On the phone my eldest asked me why I hadn't come to pick her and her sister up yet..... What am I to say to her?? I hope this doesn't go on for too much longer.
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Originally posted by Zhoozhelitsa View PostWhy does stating a fact = personal attack?
Same with asking loaded questions, or a dozen other manipulative tactics. Stop and think about how you say things and how they can come across.
Communication isn't about what you say. It's about how you are heard. There is a lot of noise and interpretation that comes inbetween you and the listener/reader. If you find yourself habitually retreating behind the excuse of "I was just stating a fact" then maybe it's time to step back and examine why people are taking what you say as negative.
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