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    My wife to whom I've been separated from for 14 months, sadly has passed away. Nothing had been settled either custodial or financially. There is still a house in both our names, lines of credit, and credit cards. She had been living with her parents with our two daughters for the same amount of time. The grandparents want custody of my two daughters, can they actually take my girls away from me or will I be reunited with my children? I am so confused and heartbroken at this time that I can hardly think. Any ideas thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. RIP the mother of my children.

  • #2
    So go get your kids.

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    • #3
      go get your kids. they are your kids. do not ask to have them. just go get them. the grandparents will have to prove in court that the kids would be better with them then you and that's a hard battle to fight.

      go get your kids. they need you to be their father right now.

      what a sad situation. I feel for you.

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      • #4
        I'm sorry for your loss, this must be a very difficult time for you and your children. As DTTE & Red said, go get the kids and let the grandparents do whatever they will do. Unless you are proven to be a crazy abusive parent, they would have very little chance of getting custody or anything. Be prepares to bring a police escort if you feel you might need it.

        Get your kids, wrap them up, hold them close and heal together.

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        • #5
          Those poor kids! And the grandparents! These children have lived with them for over a year before this happened, and you just want to uproot them? So in one week they lose their mom, and then get ripped away from their home and the other family members they have been closest to for the last year? Not to mention the ex's parents, who just lost their daughter, and now you're proposing to swoop in and grab their granddaughters, whom they've been living with and helping to raise for more than a year?

          I'm not saying having your kids isn't the right thing to do; you're their last remaining parent, and that's the ultimate goal. But for everyone's sake, especially for a good ongoing relationship with your daughters' maternal grandparents, do it gently and with sensitivity to everyone's feelings!

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          • #6
            Maybe the grandparents should do the same.

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            • #7
              Amen. Amen.

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              • #8
                You have every right to walk in and take your children with you, but this situation needs sensitivity rather than rights. Rioe is right, I would hold off on taking them yet. Be there with them, offer to help out the best you can. Spend as much time as you can with them right now but not removing them from the home they are used to. They are fragile and if you work on just being very supportive and constantly active in their every day life it will work out better as will the transition.
                Best of luck, and so sorry about the loss.

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                • #9
                  No one is saying that he should be strong-arming Grandpa and Grandma, much less the kids.

                  But he should be going there, and welcome there, to discuss the coming days, weeks and months.

                  And that discussion should include his assuming care for the children, if he wants it.

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                  • #10
                    re the children

                    I do not wish to be nonsensitive in this matter, I understand the severity of it. I just want to spend some time with my children during this time. The grandparents won't even let me have the children for a few hours. The children have asked to come to me several times this weekend. I have been involved with my children the last 14 months, being with them as much as I've been allowed by the other family. We were in the middle of sorting out custody, and I was never informed that the childrens mother was so sick. I know that my children want to be with me right now. So what should I do? Leave the children there against their wishes for the grandparents, or go to my children so we can hold each other? I am not welcomed in the inlaws house. What do I do??

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                    • #11
                      Police escort and go get your kids

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                      • #12
                        What do you want? Do you want to raise your kids full time?

                        Either way, you want them for some time, they are your kids, and NO ONE can stop you from simply going and getting them (sounds like police escort is a good idea).

                        Take charge - you are their only parent! Grandparent involvement should be encouraged (if the GPs can control their dislike for you), but it has to be on YOUR terms, not the GPs.

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                        • #13
                          thank you

                          I have contacted the police and am waiting to hear back. This is so unbearable. I spoke to my oldest daughter this morning and she asked me when am I coming to pick her up. Then the inlaws got on the phone and said that I was not to come. This is not what I expected. Can only wait to hear back from the police now. Things should not have to be this way. I am heartbroken that this is the outcome. I just got off the phone with the OPP and they tell me that there is nothing that they can do to help me. I need a court order from a judge saying that I can have my children before they will help. Isn't our system great.

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                          • #14
                            I am so sorry for your loss. Right now with everything that has happened I am sure your ex's parents are hurting badly. The loss of a child would be unbearable. That being said they are probably not willing to let the kids go now as they have already suffered a major loss and the poor children are stuck in the middle. If your kids are older they cannot force them to stay there. There is nothing in the way of scheduled access? What were you doing before she passed in the way of access place/times?

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                            • #15
                              So get a court order

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