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Old 01-22-2010, 05:09 PM
Cobourg Cobourg is offline
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You touched on a subject that I have been struggling with since my separation.
I have been paying table amount of child support and spousal support since my ex moved out with the kids.
They are not "athletic" but do enjoy playing house league soccer and hockey. Both are involved in Scouting and Guides.
Prior to separation, these activities were funded out of our "joint account". I put it in those terms because my paycheck went in and it funded everything.
Here is my problem...when it came time to register the kids for the sports and such, I asked my ex to pay for half of the cost. I was willing to pay my share, over and above what I was already paying in support.
She refused.
In order for the kids to be able to continue their activities, I had to pay for all costs.
I also take them to all activities, even when it is not my weekend. Don't get me wrong, any "extra" time with the kids is great, but there are costs associated with this as well.
We have no formal separation agreement yet. Just some temporary consent orders that don't deal with any of this stuff.
Am I out of luck with getting any of this money back?
Do I just "suck it up" because the kids (and I) get something out of it?
What are your thoughts?
Old 01-23-2010, 12:56 AM
billiechic billiechic is offline
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You are not likely to get the money back, however going forward these costs should be paid out of her CS. Do you think your kids would lose out on these activities if she had to pay? That is something you want to consider as well.
Old 01-23-2010, 09:42 PM
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The kids would definitly lose out on the activities.
That is the issue.
She won't give up her hair appointments or her manicure or new clothes.
I give up so the kids don't lose out.

Just the way it is I guess.
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