Hey everyone,
New to the board and hoping that i can get some feed back on my situation.
So I'll give you a bit of a background. My ex and i separated in 07 and have one child together. We went to court and i was granted joint custody and have my son every weekend with a schedule that goes fri-mon and sun-mon. So since the separation my ex has moved 7 times in the last 4.5 years and is constantly making it hard for my son to get stability in his life unless he is with myself and my fiance. Please note that these said moves have been within the area that we live in.
I do as much as i can to be involved in my sons life weather it is coaching him in hockey or baseball or just making sure that I am there for every event that he has.
So here is my current situation......
This access arrangement has been in place since day one. My ex is constantly denying me additional access to see my son (ie she will not let me take him for ice cream after baseball and drop him off at her house on my way home) and we have been to court recently (6 months ago) about this. The ink on the minutes of settlement for this matter has not even dried yet. So as i stated before my ex has moved 7 times in the last 4.5 years where i have lived in the same residence for that time with my fiance. My son has his own room and if you were to come to our home you wouldn't know that he was just there on weekends. We have said from the beginning that we do not want him to feel like he is being packed up and sent to dads so we have everything here that he would have at his moms and more. He literally just comes with what he has on.
My fiance has known him since he was 1.5 yrs old and they have a very loving relationship and this bothers my ex. My son says he is so lucky that he has two moms that love him and refers to my fiance as Momma "name". Note that this is a name that he has come up with himself and this has not been pushed on him.
My ex is constantly denying additional access even though it has been stated in the MOS that I am allowed to have my son extra time. She is not forthcoming with any information regarding my son and I am constantly having to do any or all research regarding him on my own because she will not give me any information.
So in the last year and half she has moved 3 times. She just informed me last Monday that she wants to move from residence which she just moved into in Feb to her new boyfriends house (shes been with for 3 months) 72km away. I have informed her that we have joint custody and sent her a letter stating that I will not allow her move with my son but stated she can move and my son can come and live with us and she can take him every other weekend. She obviously said no! Now with this move i would be loosing my Mondays with him as well as it would be hard for me to be apart of his everyday life the way i am now. She currently lives 0.4 km away from both my sons school/daycare and her work (these are beside one another). and 5 km away from my residence. She will be keeping her job and communing to and from work from her new place 72km away. She says that she will be relocation my son to a new school in that area along with all his sports to be played there as well. Pretty much uprooting his entire life. MY sons support network, friends, family, doctor, dentist and all his sports have been played in the area since he was born.
I have gone and seen a good lawyer and he says that there are a few things that can be done. One of which is to take her back to court and ask the court to give me primary residence due to the fact that she does not provide a stable environment for my son.
My question is what other options are there. I believe with the joint custody that it has pretty much vetoed her moving with my son, but is there anything else that I can do?
Please feel free to ask me anything
New to the board and hoping that i can get some feed back on my situation.
So I'll give you a bit of a background. My ex and i separated in 07 and have one child together. We went to court and i was granted joint custody and have my son every weekend with a schedule that goes fri-mon and sun-mon. So since the separation my ex has moved 7 times in the last 4.5 years and is constantly making it hard for my son to get stability in his life unless he is with myself and my fiance. Please note that these said moves have been within the area that we live in.
I do as much as i can to be involved in my sons life weather it is coaching him in hockey or baseball or just making sure that I am there for every event that he has.
So here is my current situation......
This access arrangement has been in place since day one. My ex is constantly denying me additional access to see my son (ie she will not let me take him for ice cream after baseball and drop him off at her house on my way home) and we have been to court recently (6 months ago) about this. The ink on the minutes of settlement for this matter has not even dried yet. So as i stated before my ex has moved 7 times in the last 4.5 years where i have lived in the same residence for that time with my fiance. My son has his own room and if you were to come to our home you wouldn't know that he was just there on weekends. We have said from the beginning that we do not want him to feel like he is being packed up and sent to dads so we have everything here that he would have at his moms and more. He literally just comes with what he has on.
My fiance has known him since he was 1.5 yrs old and they have a very loving relationship and this bothers my ex. My son says he is so lucky that he has two moms that love him and refers to my fiance as Momma "name". Note that this is a name that he has come up with himself and this has not been pushed on him.
My ex is constantly denying additional access even though it has been stated in the MOS that I am allowed to have my son extra time. She is not forthcoming with any information regarding my son and I am constantly having to do any or all research regarding him on my own because she will not give me any information.
So in the last year and half she has moved 3 times. She just informed me last Monday that she wants to move from residence which she just moved into in Feb to her new boyfriends house (shes been with for 3 months) 72km away. I have informed her that we have joint custody and sent her a letter stating that I will not allow her move with my son but stated she can move and my son can come and live with us and she can take him every other weekend. She obviously said no! Now with this move i would be loosing my Mondays with him as well as it would be hard for me to be apart of his everyday life the way i am now. She currently lives 0.4 km away from both my sons school/daycare and her work (these are beside one another). and 5 km away from my residence. She will be keeping her job and communing to and from work from her new place 72km away. She says that she will be relocation my son to a new school in that area along with all his sports to be played there as well. Pretty much uprooting his entire life. MY sons support network, friends, family, doctor, dentist and all his sports have been played in the area since he was born.
I have gone and seen a good lawyer and he says that there are a few things that can be done. One of which is to take her back to court and ask the court to give me primary residence due to the fact that she does not provide a stable environment for my son.
My question is what other options are there. I believe with the joint custody that it has pretty much vetoed her moving with my son, but is there anything else that I can do?
Please feel free to ask me anything
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