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Old 05-25-2018, 10:09 PM
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I found out my ex is using a booster seat for our child and they weigh under 40 lbs which is the requirement for the booster seat and the law in Ontario. Looking for opinions on how to handle this.
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Old 05-25-2018, 10:35 PM
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Old 05-25-2018, 10:56 PM
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The safety of my child.
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Old 05-25-2018, 11:05 PM
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I got married in early '80s... husband bought me a L82 Corvette with t-top (2 door, 2 seats). Son was transported around in one of those "bucket" things for several years. Seats didn't click in place and when I strapped the bucket into the front (only) seat, everything moved when I pushed seat forward. Had we been in a car accident both son and I would have been 'toast' as car was basically fibre glass. After having it for a few years we sold vehicle to BIL. I remember borrowing it from time to time for a trip to the mountains. Kid (then a toddler) would simply straddle the hump between the two seats! No seat belt and certainly no car seat.

Of course I soon learned (as they became popular, along with baby monitors) that the "thing" to do was to buy car seat for child. Before you knew it, car seats HAD to be installed by a mechanic (I think things have changed now?).

Now if this is a really big deal to you, and you are sincerely worried about child's safety, then simply text ex (way of communicating nowadays) and give her information. She may simply be unaware of the weight requirements. Or you can stalk her and call the police on her when you see her drive out of her driveway? (sarcasm). Of course you could go out and buy a nice age/weight-appropriate car seat?
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Old 05-26-2018, 03:12 PM
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What does the child weigh and how tall is the child? Some children outgrow car seats height wise long before they do weight wise. Why not simply tell your ex you disagree and see what she says? Maybe she was given misinformation somewhere. I can only assume that no normal parent would knowingly risk their child’s safety


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Old 05-26-2018, 04:51 PM
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I know the feeling. My ex took the kids out of their booster seats long before their bodies were the right size for travelling with no booster seat. He now allows them to ride in the front seat. Again, they are too small to be doing so. I have tried dealing with him to no avail. I have spoken with the police and pretty much, there's nothing I can do. It's beyond frustrating and frightening. I suspect the only thing you can do is join the ranks of parents who pray nothing happens to your kiddos while traveling in the car with the other parent.

Berner_Faith, unfortunately there are some parents who would rather be "cool" than keep their child(ren) safe.
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Old 05-26-2018, 05:36 PM
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Me three, my ex doesnt own a car but uses his brothers car on his weekends with no car seats, my 3 year should be in a proper car seat, 7 year old in a booster. I complained, he didnt care.
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Old 05-27-2018, 11:37 AM
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Car seats have been availablw since the early 70’s, although at that time you bought them from car dealerships, they were very new, not a requirement and probably not that safe, although probably safer than kaying yiur j fant on the dloor of the car in a box when travelling alone, or on an adukts lap in thw front seat. I have never heard of a requirement for a mechanic to put in a seat, mYbe that was an kntario thing, as i am, i am quite sure that was not ghe case in my province.

I guess you need to fugure out if child not in car seat due to cost, ignorance, or disregard. If vost or ignorance you ciuld offer to buy a seat or jnstall it.
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Old 05-27-2018, 11:57 AM
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What is the issue? You said your ex is using a car seat and the child needs to be in a car seat. They are using a car seat...I dont see what the problem is...
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Old 05-27-2018, 03:30 PM
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The issue is the child is in the wrong type of restraint system. Since their introduction, parents have been told of the potential dangers of using the wrong size/type/etc. This child is in the wrong type of car restraint system. Unfortunately, this issue falls under the "you can't do anything about it until an actual injury or death occurs" category. I am going through it and have learned to take very deep breaths as I watch one of the kids take position in the front seat of their dad's vehicle. It's very very frightening and the OP is expressing that fear. There is absolutely nothing he can do but keep his fingers crossed and hope that nothing happens.
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