This question is mainly for LV, but I welcome everyone's input -- Grace, you around??
Over 6 months have elapsed since the ex physically left the family home.
He had been couch surfing with friends for a while in the same city where we live. When he outwore his welcome, about 4 months ago, he moved in with his sister in the bigger city where we're from.
He hasn't seen the kids since September, no xmas or bday gifts, calls sporadically wreaking havoc, no CS. I'm dealing with these things best I can, thanks in large part to the info I've gotten via these forums.
Last w/e (Mar 10), his sister came to visit her nieces at the family home, and carted several bags of the ex's belongings back home with her. The kids thoroughly enjoyed the visit, and we adults tried to remain child focussed.
But here's the kicker:
Something happened this past w/e, causing his sister to have the ex removed from her home with a police escort. I've yet to speak to the sister, and only have the ex's crazed voicemail message to go by. As usual, everything is my fault and I somehow convinced his sister to throw him out when she came for the visit - LMAO!
Anyhow, I am once again afraid for our personal safety. Desperate people do desperate things and all that. I have not sought formal custody of the kids, but given this recent turn of event, now may well be the time to move forward on that end.
Since he now has no fixed address, no phone etc, I'm not sure how he could be served, nor whether there's even a point jumping through the custody loops, under the circumstances. It would simply give me a sense of security that he can't up and take them away from school or whatnot...
Your insight is much appreciated.
Over 6 months have elapsed since the ex physically left the family home.
He had been couch surfing with friends for a while in the same city where we live. When he outwore his welcome, about 4 months ago, he moved in with his sister in the bigger city where we're from.
He hasn't seen the kids since September, no xmas or bday gifts, calls sporadically wreaking havoc, no CS. I'm dealing with these things best I can, thanks in large part to the info I've gotten via these forums.
Last w/e (Mar 10), his sister came to visit her nieces at the family home, and carted several bags of the ex's belongings back home with her. The kids thoroughly enjoyed the visit, and we adults tried to remain child focussed.
But here's the kicker:
Something happened this past w/e, causing his sister to have the ex removed from her home with a police escort. I've yet to speak to the sister, and only have the ex's crazed voicemail message to go by. As usual, everything is my fault and I somehow convinced his sister to throw him out when she came for the visit - LMAO!
Anyhow, I am once again afraid for our personal safety. Desperate people do desperate things and all that. I have not sought formal custody of the kids, but given this recent turn of event, now may well be the time to move forward on that end.
Since he now has no fixed address, no phone etc, I'm not sure how he could be served, nor whether there's even a point jumping through the custody loops, under the circumstances. It would simply give me a sense of security that he can't up and take them away from school or whatnot...
Your insight is much appreciated.
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