Hi all
My ex was with his partner for about 1 and 1/2 yr and they just separated. We have 3 kids and she has 2, during the time of the relationship my ex's ex and her children became quite close to my kids. As my ex is away out of the country for 1 month she has asked me a few times if my kids can go and visit and I have accepted under the condition that once he comes back she talks to him and makes sure he agrees to this. She is ok with that and has been very respectfull of my request. My 14 yrs old daughter was quite upset at the fact that her dad has the power to either let the relationship continue or not. sHE actually ''Told'' her dad that he had no say in the matter when she is with me, which puts me in between... Of course I'm happy to facilitate a relationship between the kids but not if it means putting them, or me in the middle...
If there was no children involved it would be an easy decision but I feel that my ex and his ex now have a responsibility towards the children. They formed a family for a year or so and we can't ask them to pretend it never happened.
Anyone in a similar situation? Suggestions?
My ex was with his partner for about 1 and 1/2 yr and they just separated. We have 3 kids and she has 2, during the time of the relationship my ex's ex and her children became quite close to my kids. As my ex is away out of the country for 1 month she has asked me a few times if my kids can go and visit and I have accepted under the condition that once he comes back she talks to him and makes sure he agrees to this. She is ok with that and has been very respectfull of my request. My 14 yrs old daughter was quite upset at the fact that her dad has the power to either let the relationship continue or not. sHE actually ''Told'' her dad that he had no say in the matter when she is with me, which puts me in between... Of course I'm happy to facilitate a relationship between the kids but not if it means putting them, or me in the middle...
If there was no children involved it would be an easy decision but I feel that my ex and his ex now have a responsibility towards the children. They formed a family for a year or so and we can't ask them to pretend it never happened.
Anyone in a similar situation? Suggestions?
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